Monthly Archives: October 2011
This gem emerged from the comments of GFG post. Thanks to Tonight We Feast, New Year New You and Super Nintendo Chalmers for the screenshot.
Shauna Ahern, the “Gluten Free Girl“, apparently feels she is being mistreated due to the Widow Donation ruckus. She is using her facebook page to air her hurt feelings and absolve herself of full blame. She even claims she is being singled out for abuse:
Unfortunately, there has been so much nastiness with this. Some of the same people who have attacked me for years, which I wrote about recently, have seem to be spearheading this. It’s bullying.
When asked why the widow keeps insisting she had no knowledge despite all evidence to the contrary, Shauna (who was herself responsible for posting that the widow was months from destitution) replied by saying, in nutshell, that she must be a little out of her mind:
We have been trying not to address it because we wanted to protect Jennie. I don’t know why she is saying this. But I can tell you categorically that she was part of all of this. She and I spoke every day during those first weeks. And if she had ever asked us to stop, we would have stopped. All I know is that grief does wild things to people. We wish her peace.
It seems these people are all throwing each other under the bus and it has come down to who you choose to believe. Since I don’t have any side here, I can tell you what I do know: the facts show clearly that the widow knew what was going on and even promoted it on her facebook and twitter, and made no effort to correct the wild dramatic pleas made by Gluten Free Girl. This Gluten Free Girl seemingly only got involved to up her own profile by playing the angelic savior of the popular widow. And Bloggers Without Borders is run by a bunch of incompetent bloggers with no nonprofit administration or public relations experience.
The food blogger community continues to compare notes on where the blame should lie. The bottom line is none of those involved have any claim to innocence at this point, and it’s pretty clear none of them intend to come clean and make it right. What a great “community”!
EDIT: GFG Shauna has now deleted the facebook entry with her comments. Luckily a GOMIBLOG commenter had already pasted the thread here if you’re interested.
True to her claims that she likes to look like everyone else Messica wore this traditional Spanish interpretation of a “Little House On The Prairie” dress that allowed her to mesh seamlessly with the Spanish citizenry.
And of course, stay tuned to her blog where
she will be posting all about her trip she will manage one more post about Barcelona with some crappy cliche photos and a paragraph about gratitude and more fawning over Gala. Yep. This is her full time job!
My big secret?
I’m going back to BYU. Like physically going back to Provo and enrolling as a student again. I’m going to graduate!
In her comments, she explains that Bathroom Baby and her husband will be up in Washington while she lives off campus and attends college for six weeks.
I’ll live off-campus (housing is incredibly easy to find during the summer). TH will work for my dad up in Washington.
But…what about Bathroom Baby? Will she see him at all for 6 weeks?
Unless TH brings him down, I don’t think we will at all. 10 days was tough, 6 weeks will be harder, but I’d rather do this than figure out how to make the classes work online.
Not only is she taking time off from Bathroom Baby, she’s also reducing her blogging:
Until I finish my two online classes, I get two 15 minute increments of That Wife time per day. This includes uploading photos, writing posts, responding to comments, time on the That Wife facebook page, and responding to emails that I label as That Wife related. I love blogging, but I need it to take a backseat for a little bit while I work to get school out of the way.
Well at least while she’s off by herself in Provo she can eat all the cheese she wants, right?
Nick Denton, overlord of Gawker Media, doesn’t believe a short comment is a worthy comment. Most likely in an effort to stop people from commenting “+1” and “THIS”, if you post a comment under 35 characters other commenters will not be able to respond to your words of brilliance. Instead they see this:
I’m not sure what this is supposed to solve or prevent. Since people can still just post “+1000” and “@” the original commenter, I don’t think this new “feature” has done anything but further annoy Gawker readers who are already irritated with the continuing redesign glitches.
Frankly I think the actual story here is that people are apparently still reading Gawker.
Five days after the internet began to question the fundraising activities on behalf of Jennifer Perillo, rumors are swirling that despite her protestations of ignorance and innocence she was aware of the fundraiser and even provided information to the campaign.
Jennifer attempted to address the confusion on her own blog but her comments seem to have raised more doubts about her level of culpability:
I had hoped to not have to disclose any of the personal dealings I’ve had with Bloggers without Borders over the last 72 hours. The coordinators no doubt had sincere intentions when launching the Fund for Jennie campaign, but you should be aware that I had no involvement in how the project was presented to the general public.
As you might imagine having lost my husband I was a little busy grieving and caring for our daughters. If you hadn’t noticed I still am grieving, yet choosing to share my experiences in hopes it helps others. To make an accusation against me without asking is a bit unfair, don’t you think?
That said, I am sure this is a question others may be wondering. It is for that reason that I will share with you my own disappointment in the misrepresentation of my financial situation. When the idea of a fundraiser was first mentioned to me, I said repeatedly that I was in no immediate financial need. I said there were many other people suffering far beyond myself.
Still, I was told people wanted to do something, to help me directly in some way, so I said if it made people feel like they could help, donations could be made towards my daughters’ college education. I do not know why the initial post didn’t reflect the reality, but you need to understand that I was not involved and cannot bear any responsibility. Would it have made a difference in the amount raised had the post been written to accurately reflect the fundraiser—that is something I can’t answer. I do know, and agree with you, that people had the right to be better informed
Unfortunately, none of this came to my attention until after the fact. I asked BwoB to donate a portion of the funds to a foundation that helps widows and widowers in true financial need. As of this past week, I even implored them to please donate all the funds to that charity. My request was denied. I was told by their Board of Directors that by law they were legally bound to distribute the funds as the donors had directed. If you contributed, or anyone else who reads this comment donated, you should contact BwoB regarding a refund. I do not know if this possible.
In sharing this information, I will also say that I will not publish any further comments of this nature. My blog is not the place to have this conversation. Any issues with how the fundraiser was presented, is an issue the donors need to discuss with BwoB. I regret having to cast any doubts on BwoB, but my feeling is that if even 1% of the people who donated to the fund feel betrayed, then they deserve a proper explanation.
So it seems her daughters’ college fund account info was available to the Bloggers Without Borders campaign directors, who chose to present the campaign with a word from Shauna of “Gluten Free Girl”:
As you can imagine, Jennie is overwhelmed not only by her grief, and the sudden responsibility of raising two children by herself, but she is also struggling with this financially. She just learned that she cannot collect widow’s benefits from Social Security because she earns too much money each year. The health insurance for her and her kids runs out in December and she just learned that the total she will have to pay will be more than her mortgage. It’s possible she’ll have to pay off the entire mortgage in one lump sum because the apartment was in his name alone.
And more than anything, Mikey wanted Jennie to continue living her dream of being a food writer. And he wanted to make sure his kids were taken care of well. That’s why he worked as hard as he did.”
This fund will help Jennie to do just that: to continue to work and take care of the girls with some peace of mind.
Doubts are being raised as to Jennifer’s actual knowledge about the direction the campaign had decided to go – apparently because despite claiming she was busy grieving with her daughters, her twitter feed was full of proof that she was online and busy informing people of her shopping habits and links to her blog. Many people seem to think at any time she could have addressed the claims of dire need and cleared up any confusion about the exact nature and intended use of the donations, but did not, thus any claims of no fault are ridiculous.
What do you think of all this? Do you blame BWoB simply because Jennifer is a widow, do you have doubts but think it crass to express them because of her recent loss? Or does the whole situation make you question everyone involved? More importantly, how should BWoB handle this situation, since no matter what you think of the widow, they were responsible for the public push for donations?
Jordan Reid can finally stop reaching for new content: she’s on her way to the hospital to produce the little human guaranteed to provide easy blog fodder for months:
Off we go!
But before we hop in a taxi: I just want to say that the comments and emails – the words of advice and support – I’ve received from so many of you over these past few months have meant the world to me. I feel so ready and so excited to take this next step…and in part, that’s because taking this journey with all of you has helped me to find confidence in myself, and in my ability to become a mother.
Which it looks like I’m about to do. So from the bottom of my heart: thank you.
Wish us luck!
Lots of love,
Hopefully it’s the real thing and not a false alarm. We’d hate for her to go another week without a drink.