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Kait Payne
March 2, 2015
1:44 am
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May 24, 2013

Some people on the SOMI forum suggested she have her own thread. Wish granted hams, sound off.

Between her melodrama, and whining and waxing poetic about shit like she's 15, I find her pretty f**king irritating.
And as someone who knew other people who eloped, I find her wedding registry to be gross. Part of the reason I've ever bought someone a wedding gift was because, you know, they had a wedding I was invited to. I don't know at what point it became cute to ask people for money to essentially fund a vacation for you.

March 2, 2015
9:58 am
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optimist13
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Oh man, I've been wanting this thread for a while. Where do I start?

The wedding registry is totally effin ridiculous. Wedding gifts are not PAYING FOR THE ENTIRE WEDDING FOR YOU. And she had already bought her and Scarlet's dress and their shoes and then they decided to "go another direction" because a seven year old didn't like her dress (but liked it enough to wear it to school for Valentine's Day?) I mean, if your fiance has lost his job you tell the kid "I'm sorry but you already picked out this dress, we're not asking strangers to buy our wedding outfits."

And I'm sorry if this is pessimistic, I'm not too confident in this marriage. They do seem to love each other, but she was also really into that Cody guy. I mean a week, if that, before her and Bobby hooked up she was talking about all how in love she was. And I get that things happen, whatever. She just seems to be a very impulsive person.

Like I said, I don't doubt that her and Bobby are ~in love~, I'm just saying they've been together a year. I know they were friends for a little bit before that. But, this whole thing is just shifty. Do they even get what an elopement is? This is not an elopement. This is a destination wedding with no guests.

And she had that registry before he lost his job. Also, their whole sob fest over him losing his job kind of pissed me off because he used to post stuff on his tumblr about how comfortable they were financially and that they weren't even worried about bills and blah blah blah.

And if you're worried about money, scale back a little. It's an "elopement" with zero guests. Maybe slash the hair and make-up budget. I mean, this whole thing to me just seems like they've got this big romantic story built up in their heads. (And I don't believe that whole story about the guy in the pawn shop and the rings for a second.) And now it's going to culminate into this wedding with their favorite photographer taking the pictures.

She just seems to be too impulsive and too big into making everything be some deep, cosmic meaning.

I don't know, I just hate how faux-philosophical they both are. And any time she makes a questionable decision, she immediately says it was for her daughter.

Like when her and Bobby hooked up. She said it was because they were drunk on gin and they slept together. And then when people called her out on that bullshit (since they were both dating other people) then she immediately goes all poet laureate about how she doesn't make any apologies for making a right decision for her daughter, yada yada. Okay, maybe that's true. Maybe that guy wasn't a good fit with Scarlet. But, damn, you don't go from "I"m so super in love with this dude" to "Nope. It wasn't right. Now I'm immediately super in love with THIS dude."

Also, a while ago I found an old post she made about her first wedding. And again, it was all "I'm super in love, I'm going to spend the rest of my life with him. The wedding was perfect."

And when she talks about it now, she says she always knew that it wasn't right and all this. Okay. It's not uncommon to lie about how good shit is online. But, damn. yadayada

Other complaints;

-Has she even been diagnosed with half the shit she claims she has?

-How Bobby moved out of his friend's house, putting them in the position where they couldn't afford their bills (and they had a baby) just so him and Kait could move in together (I'm guessing she couldn't pay her bills after she kicked that other guy out.) And according to the friend's gf's blog, NEVER apologized about it.

-Her attitude towards Scarlet's dad. Okay, maybe he was a dick to her. Maybe he is a serial cheater. But, she has even admitted that him and his girlfriend do really love Scarlet and are good to her. Is that not what matters? I mean if every decision you make is "for your kid", why do you constantly blog about wanting to take her and move out of Oklahoma, away from the dad that she seemingly has a great relationship with? And she has the audacity to say it's because she was a "single parent" to Scarlet while he was at basic training. So, she has more of a right to her and it's bullshit that she has to live in Oklahoma and share custody. I'm sorry, what? He probably joined the Air Force because you idiots were 19 and with a kid to support. And despite what Kait says, she was clearly jealous of that Lauren lady. And how is Lauren's involvement "Mommy Dearest" trying to "steal" Scarlet and Bobby's involvement is "OMG he is soooooo good with Scarlet. She was our cupid. She knew we were supposed to be together! We're a family!" And Bobby's involvement seems to be equal, maybe even greater than Lauren's. Again, if "everything I do is for my kid", maybe be happy that her dad is dating someone who loves your daughter and isn't mean to her?

That Gabe guy does seem like a jerk, but he seems to be at least a decent dad. And, um, how is him keeping her for an entire summer because you didn't have your shit together any different than you keeping her while he was at basic training?

She's just a total whiner. Anything she doesn't like is a great tragedy she has to deal with and she pads every questionable decision in her life with how it's "meant to be". She's not that great a writer, it's all just saccharine flowery hyperbole that doesn't make sense. And she's been blogging about this "children's book" for f**king ever. She has a large following, and could probably get it published it that was honestly her "dream".

And to be honest, they both seem to be pretty immature and I think more in love with this whole "love story" than anything.

 

That was really long. Years in the making.

March 2, 2015
10:30 am
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optimist13
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November 21, 2014

Sorry, sorry, few more thoughts;

I really think this whole quickie engagement thing happened because Gabe and Lauren were engaged. She obviously still holds a torch there or wouldn't adamantly hate Lauren years after the divorce.

And her and Bobby both just seem to be so full of shit. Their back stories change to fit their moods.

And thought it was hilarious that she got all pissed off that Scarlet got an undercut at her dad's and then she butchers her bangs (and got them trimmed the other day even though they are still way too short?)

And she called the dad's blog "bullshit" but he started it because she changed the password on the dearscarlet blog that they both "wrote" Scarlet letters on. (And now she wants to act like she was the only one doing it). 

And yeah, some of the things he puts on there are super flowery. But, yeah, the both seem to love their daughter. And Kait also cheated when they were married. I just don't appreciate the constant bashing of him. Even if he is a jackass, what if Scarlet reads this stuff later on? It wouldn't be hard for her to find the kaitmpayne blog because it's all over the dearscarlet blog.

And, it is f**king weird that she's keeping Payne. Tell me she doesn't hold a f**king torch. And she's going to give any kid she has with Bobby the "Payne-Villegas" hyphen? That's just odd to me. And she can say what she wants, I don't think it's just because she doesn't want to have a different last name from Scarlet.

March 2, 2015
10:46 am
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snarkyasf

She is a psycho. She was homeless after the divorce because she refused to learn to drive and get a f**king job. That is not doing what's best for your child. I think she's with this Bobby dude for stability.

March 2, 2015
11:49 am
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dancingcat
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March 11, 2014

The public airing of their dirty laundry has always made me so uncomfortable. Especially considering how easy it would be for her daughter to find it and read it one day. I keep hoping she'll gain a little tact but it hasn't seemed to happen yet.

March 2, 2015
12:17 pm
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silvercat
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March 2, 2015

Can someone please tell me how you are a feminist yet depend solely on MEN! She couldn't even drive her own daughter to the f**king doctor if she needed to go. It so sad how pathetic of a person she is. Like grow the f**k up. Another thing that really just grosses me out is how easily she can leave Scarlet alone with men. Men who she has only known for a few months and they are bathing her and putting her to bed. facepalm She claims to be this amazing mother but puts her child in sketchy situations.

Now about this "elopement." Sure she has irritated me for a while now but this shit is taking me over the edge. How can you call this an elopement when this is clearly a destination wedding. Let's call it what it is Kait, instead of downplaying it. Also, get f**king REAL! If you can't afford to pay for you own f**king destination wedding then keep your happy ass in Oklahoma and get married if Bobby really is "IT" for you. Can't wait to see that marriage crash as burn like the last one. trainwreck

Did anyone else notice she took down the "How much she has already got" and the "how much more she needs" bar on the funding page? So people are donating blindly and she is just ok with taking as much as people are willing to give. There wasn't a day where Bobby wasn't unemployed, he said he has a week left of work and got another job within the same week so never once were the struggling with money. They are probably idiots and spent all of their money on Organically Grown Local Blood Oranges for their organic orange juice and $30 bottle of wine….like don't people for money and then post shit like that finger

Live within your means and grow the f**k up.

March 2, 2015
12:25 pm
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optimist13
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November 21, 2014

silvercat meowed
Can someone please tell me how you are a feminist yet depend solely on MEN! She couldn't even drive her own daughter to the f**king doctor if she needed to go. It so sad how pathetic of a person she is. Like grow the f**k up. Another thing that really just grosses me out is how easily she can leave Scarlet alone with men. Men who she has only known for a few months and they are bathing her and putting her to bed. facepalm She claims to be this amazing mother but puts her child in sketchy situations.

Now about this "elopement." Sure she has irritated me for a while now but this shit is taking me over the edge. How can you call this an elopement when this is clearly a destination wedding. Let's call it what it is Kait, instead of downplaying it. Also, get f**king REAL! If you can't afford to pay for you own f**king destination wedding then keep your happy ass in Oklahoma and get married if Bobby really is "IT" for you. Can't wait to see that marriage crash as burn like the last one. trainwreck

Did anyone else notice she took down the "How much she has already got" and the "how much more she needs" bar on the funding page? So people are donating blindly and she is just ok with taking as much as people are willing to give. There wasn't a day where Bobby wasn't unemployed, he said he has a week left of work and got another job within the same week so never once were the struggling with money. They are probably idiots and spent all of their money on Organically Grown Local Blood Oranges for their organic orange juice and $30 bottle of wine….like don't people for money and then post shit like that finger

Live within your means and grow the f**k up.

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Yeah, those "mimosas" probably put them back $40-50. But you need someone to pay the fee to get into Yosemite? WTF?! And where the f**k did that whole Yosemite thing come from? In the million times she's posted the story of how she found out she was pregnant, Yosemite was NEVER mentioned until she put it on that f**king registry.

Also noticed she took the bar down and the last time I saw the bars it was over halfway.

I mean, damn, at least in the past when she was panhandling she had the decency to sell prints.
This time she's offering her fangirls nothing but "quality posts" that will no doubt dry up as soon as she gets what she wants. You revived a dormant blog to beg for money. If you're so in love, go to the court house on your lunch break and get married.

March 2, 2015
12:55 pm
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If you're so in love, go to the court house on your lunch break and get married.

A-f**king-MEN, and I bet my ass people in her life feel the same way. "Deadbeat woman whose relationships go up in flames every f**king time" was probably not an easy sell to family/friends, thus eloping was probably the only reasonable option. Case in point that registry. I find it telling that she made it not because family and friends wanted to give her gifts and then wanted to invite the internet to donate, but because as she put it "A few of you have asked…" I doubt any logical person in her life was willing to foot the bill for ANY kind of wedding celebration given her track record.

March 2, 2015
2:38 pm
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August 6, 2014

Holy throwback, Batman. I used to faithfully hate read this train wreck of a blog and after reading this thread, sounds like I only missed more of the same.

I read her blog right after she had Scarlet, through the Gabe drama, the Gabe wedding and at some point after that I got over all the whining. I am tempted to go back and catch up on some of the highlights, but I worry for my blood pressure. She's never given a a morally sound vibe, but I honestly thought that by 2015 she would have stopped posting all of her intimate life details on the internet. Especially since S is definitely getting old enough to know how to use the Internet and could find it.

 

Does she really still not drive? I just can't understand that… sfun_deadhorse

March 2, 2015
2:51 pm
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August 26, 2014

Awww man, I first knew her from Dear Scarlet and only recently got to her personal blog, so I'm way behind on the drama and oversharing. But I find the wedding thing so inappropriate too. The other day she was posting about how bad/ashamed she felt about asking for donations, and fighting those feelings as if it was a big personal breakthrough. Uh, you're having strangers funding your entire wedding that could easily, I dunno, be cheaper or wait a few more months until you save enough. At least she could do something to earn the money, like the prints she used to sell? Meanwhile she reblogs posts about poverty (!)

I don't really know what to make of her, she seems like she means well and cares a lot about her daughter, but is also really immature and ends up doing weird shit like the oversharing and all the wedding related things.

March 2, 2015
6:23 pm
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optimist13
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November 21, 2014

I don't doubt she loves her kid. And I give her a lot of benefit of the doubt because she was such a young parent and she's in Oklahoma with no family. But, I don't think she's completely recovered from her divorce.

I feel kind of bad for Scarlet because it seems like her parents are constantly competing for who can love her more. They both got her dogs for Valentine's Day. Her dad posted that it was never easy saying bye to her a week, and then Kait posted that exact sentiment on the dearscarlet blog. There are a lot more examples. Basically whenever one does something, the other one quickly follows. Kait was very vocally resentful towards Gabe for being able to take Scarlet on vacations and buy her stuff back when she was still living with Bobby and that other girl as roommates.

They have both made comments about each other online. Gabe made some comments about Kait always drinking in front of Scarlet. Kait made comments about Gabe moving Lauren in with him and Scarlet and then kissing her in front of Scarlet (but then she moved Cody II in within a month of knowing him). Gabe made some comments about Kait getting Scarlet's hair all cut off again and then Kait made comments about the undercut. They both seem super petty. I

just feel bad for Scarlet because Kait has said she's had a really hard time with the divorce and I think part of it is because her parents clearly have this back and forth between them. There's probably a lot of jealousy and resentment. And Kait has said she had even felt like Scarlet becomes "two different kids" at their houses and is trying to please everyone.

March 2, 2015
7:51 pm
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snarkyasf

Yeah, you can tell from his blog vs hers, she's two different kids. Gabe dresses her like a little girl, and in the pics that have all 3 of them they honestly look like a happy family. The pictures kaitpayne posts display a child without rules or boundaries.

March 2, 2015
8:29 pm
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it's funny because I see it differently, Scarlet always seemed to be this kid, kinda wild and into her bones and zombies and science. Then Lauren came along and suddenly Scarlet is all dolled up like a miniature beauty queen. That new side of Scarlet seems so phony to me, and every photo that Gabe or Lauren post Scarlet looks kind of dead in the eyes. I think the photos of her with her mum show real joy. I think that the way Lauren has stepped up to step-parent Scarlet is admirable but I also always got the impression that the resentment and bad feelings were coming from Gabe rather than from Kait.

 

It's clear that Kait really hasn't got it together very well though, the way she kind of proudly admits to absolutely losing the plot on a number of occasions and going on huge drinking binges. Bobby really does seem to have grounded her a lot, which is sad- you would think her daughter would do that for her. Or perhaps a proper doctor's diagnosis of an anxiety disorder and therapy.

 

I think her photography of S when she was a toddler was beautiful and I think it's a pity that she seems to have lost that part of her personality to bobby, it seems like only he takes photos, and I did used to really enjoy her writing when she would really open up and be relatable but she doesn't write like that anymore which leaves her blog pretty boring tbh. Maybe that's because she has such a huge following but that comes with the territory

 

I hope this didn't come across as too wky. I don't mind Kait (though 100% get everyone's points.) I'm happy to have a platform to discuss her though, especially all the weirdness between her and Gabe

 

(oh also, I've been a reader since the very beginning and she did have a summer internship at Yosemite lined up before S was born which didn't work out so that isn't something she's just made up. But I don't see how she hasn't made it there by now, S is what, 8? That's long enough to save up for something if it's so very very important as she claims it is)



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