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Kait Payne
March 5, 2015
9:05 am
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optimist13
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Looks like Bobby's car broke down and they had to have it repaired. I expect the money whining to go into full force soon.

March 11, 2015
1:51 pm
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aviorion
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I haven't been on GOMI in six months and couldn't recall my username or log in email (not an avid commenter) and was pretty stoked to see this new thread!

I used to read Dear Scarlet back when I had a Tumblr and then started reading Kait's personal blog. I used to really like her and Gabe, but once shit went south with their marriage they both became the worst kind of people, constantly in competition with one another and trying to tear the other one down. Too much dirty laundry aired all over the internet. Once people started harping on Lauren and he deleted his blog I never kept up with him (Sounds like he has a new blog? Link please?) but I did read Kait's stuff  for a while, until it got a little too ridiculous.

 

It just seems like she plays into being a victim of her circumstance, well beyond reason. Yes, she and Gabe had a baby really young and didn't have any money and no, their lives haven't been ideal, but she has just continued to make bad choices and not take responsibility for any of her actions ever since. All while preaching excuses and reasons all over the internet. There are single parents out there who truly struggle and things like not wanting to learn to drive, for example, are just beyond immature and stupid.

 

Scarlet does appear to be a very loved little girl, but I hate to think that she's trying to live up to a different set of expectations in each house to the point that she is living two lives, two realities, to appease everyone. It just seems like that is going to be a problem later on, if it's not already.

 

Also, did anyone else think it was odd that Lauren attempted to pick up photography when she and Gabe were first dating? Again, I don't know if she continued to pursue, but I do remember a series of photos she took and knowing photography was part of Kait's whole deal I just thought it came off creepy and weird… why try to be like the girl your new bf just divorced? Ick.

March 12, 2015
12:40 am
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snarkyasf

Not sure of exact spelling but it's a tumblr and it's titled Scarlets aurora.

March 16, 2015
9:35 am
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snarkyasf

These two make me irate. Bobby posted that they went to dallas, which is a 3 hr road trip from okc. I hope anyone who has given them money feels like a f**king idiot.

March 16, 2015
5:34 pm
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optimist13
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She is SO FRAWNCH meowed
 

It just seems like she plays into being a victim of her circumstance, well beyond reason. Yes, she and Gabe had a baby really young and didn't have any money and no, their lives haven't been ideal, but she has just continued to make bad choices and not take responsibility for any of her actions ever since. All while preaching excuses and reasons all over the internet. There are single parents out there who truly struggle and things like not wanting to learn to drive, for example, are just beyond immature and stupid.

 

I agree. It just irritates me because we're supposed to think she's some kind of matyr because she had a kid at 19. Her parents definitely helped them out, and his probably did somewhat. It's just funny to me because her friend Paiton (who also has a personal blog and a blog about her daughter) also had a child at 19. Paiton and the dad, I can't remember his name, didn't stay together long after the kid was born. I think she was 1 when they broke up. And, a couple of years ago, the kid's dad died of a drug overdose and Paiton has had to raise the kid as a single parent, dealing with this kid who is grieving her father, plus Paiton has a boyfriend and a new baby, so having to deal with all these relationships. And both of her blogs are just beams of positivity. Seriously, I've never seen her complain. Even after the guy died, she obviously was sad but her (and her boyfriend) handled that in just the coolest way (atleast what was shared on the blog). They had a memorial for the guy, both of them talked to the little girl about him, Paiton has stayed at least on talking terms with his family and lets her kid see them a lot, etc. They both legitimately seem to have their kids best interests in heart. It would have been so easy for the surviving parent to just squash any memories of the biological dad, or talk bad about him for dying like he did. It would have been easy for the boyfriend to be resentful about having to be this kid's father figure suddenly. But, they seem to have handled it wonderfully. Yes, her modern hippie thing gets a little much at times. But, if you ask me, she has a LOT MORE to complain about than Kait. Her and her boyfriend both work and don't have a lot of money, either. (Now, granted, they do have a lot of close family to help, but still).

 

I do feel bad for Scarlet. I feel like she's not really the tomboy weirdo kid that Kait wants her to be or the princess that Gabe wants her to be. I do feel like Kait is a little codependent on this kid. All this "I knew exactly who she was going to be ever since I was pregnant with her" stuff is very overbearing. No, you didn't. You knew who you WANTED her to be.

And it's not just the trip to Dallas. They've been spending money like crazy. Kait is still posting food pictures that are definitely not "bargain bin" buys and she went to one of those wine and painting classes, which are like $50 around here.

March 17, 2015
2:20 pm
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aviorion
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March 11, 2015

optimist13 meowed

She is SO FRAWNCH meowed
 

It just seems like she plays into being a victim of her circumstance, well beyond reason. Yes, she and Gabe had a baby really young and didn't have any money and no, their lives haven't been ideal, but she has just continued to make bad choices and not take responsibility for any of her actions ever since. All while preaching excuses and reasons all over the internet. There are single parents out there who truly struggle and things like not wanting to learn to drive, for example, are just beyond immature and stupid.

 

I agree. It just irritates me because we're supposed to think she's some kind of matyr because she had a kid at 19. Her parents definitely helped them out, and his probably did somewhat. It's just funny to me because her friend Paiton (who also has a personal blog and a blog about her daughter) also had a child at 19. Paiton and the dad, I can't remember his name, didn't stay together long after the kid was born. I think she was 1 when they broke up. And, a couple of years ago, the kid's dad died of a drug overdose and Paiton has had to raise the kid as a single parent, dealing with this kid who is grieving her father, plus Paiton has a boyfriend and a new baby, so having to deal with all these relationships. And both of her blogs are just beams of positivity. Seriously, I've never seen her complain. Even after the guy died, she obviously was sad but her (and her boyfriend) handled that in just the coolest way (atleast what was shared on the blog). They had a memorial for the guy, both of them talked to the little girl about him, Paiton has stayed at least on talking terms with his family and lets her kid see them a lot, etc. They both legitimately seem to have their kids best interests in heart. It would have been so easy for the surviving parent to just squash any memories of the biological dad, or talk bad about him for dying like he did. It would have been easy for the boyfriend to be resentful about having to be this kid's father figure suddenly. But, they seem to have handled it wonderfully. Yes, her modern hippie thing gets a little much at times. But, if you ask me, she has a LOT MORE to complain about than Kait. Her and her boyfriend both work and don't have a lot of money, either. (Now, granted, they do have a lot of close family to help, but still).

 

I do feel bad for Scarlet. I feel like she's not really the tomboy weirdo kid that Kait wants her to be or the princess that Gabe wants her to be. I do feel like Kait is a little codependent on this kid. All this "I knew exactly who she was going to be ever since I was pregnant with her" stuff is very overbearing. No, you didn't. You knew who you WANTED her to be.

And it's not just the trip to Dallas. They've been spending money like crazy. Kait is still posting food pictures that are definitely not "bargain bin" buys and she went to one of those wine and painting classes, which are like $50 around here.

Bingo. I've had friends who PLANNED children at that age.. not that it was the best thing they could have been doing, but it's not like she was 14. Plenty of young people, some who even are still in high school, work their tails off to make a better life for themselves and doing whatever it takes to get there, kid in tow. I just can't with the pity party. It's kind of strange that she would have a friend that is working through SO MUCH and she even have the audacity to complain. If only his Paiton person could have a positive influence… but I'm sure Kait would never let that happen.

After reading through Gabe's blog – she sounds like such a different kid there. It's actually kind of troubling… And any person who says they "knew who their kid was going to be" is nuts. By that logic parents who have children born with medical disorders would have "known" that it was going to happen. She's starting to make me think of Dear Baby's Melissa when she gets all whimsical/day dreamy b.s.

The post about Bobby buying a new camera was infuriating enough, but a road trip?! If people don't stop feeding into this crap they're going to end up funding their entire lives. I mean, they've already bought them a camera and paid for a short trip.

After combing through some things I missed, the whole Bobby thing is just a big fat nope. He might be a nice dude or whatever, but hooking up and screwing over other people? Doesn't seem like a good person to date or marry, he'll probably do it again and so will Kait. The claims that the old guy told them to buy their wedding rings from him, back when they were just friends? (Which, sorry, don't buy it. I'm sure that some overly romanticized version of the truth.) I'm with whoever previously said that marrying Bobby is directly related to Gabe marrying Lauren. (Don't get me wrong, that seems a little rushed too but their relationship at least isn't on full display for the internet anymore.) Just, THESE PEOPLE.

And the only one truly affected is going to be Scarlet and I'm sure, given how her parents are, she will be filling up the internet with tales of her childhood and ridiculous parents in years to come.

March 17, 2015
3:35 pm
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optimist13
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November 21, 2014

Both couples, Gabe/Lauren and Kait/Bobby became a couple through infidelity. And that's just life, sometimes that's how it happens. I'm not condoning having affairs at all. I actually think it's a very stupid and cowardly thing to do. I've always said that I literally don't care if you're going into the other person's bedroom when you call me to break it off, that is so much better than just sleeping with them first. I mean, be a damned grown up. Which, from what all has been shared, Bobby and Kait were drunk off their asses.

 I kind of think that this Bobby thing isn't as "kismet" as she pretends it is. Rather, they were drunk, they slept together. The other parties found out (and I'm pretty sure that she blogged that Cody and Patty "found out" rather than were told) and then they were pretty much stuck with each other. I think Bobby does have a good relationship with Scarlet. He had already been babysitting her for years and had lived with them as roommates. I believe Kait knew that she needed another income for paying the bills. And they've padded those practical reasons with all this sentiment and romantic bullshit.

That old man in the pawn shop story is complete bullshit and they made it up to make buying pawn store wedding rings romantic.

Bobby and Kait's quickie engagement and marriage (they will be married within a year and a half of getting engaged) is to me a direct result of Gabe and Lauren's engagement. I might be wrong on this, but I'm pretty sure that they have been engaged for a while. I remember Kait posting something about it, which I think she later deleted, and it was at least over a year, maybe almost two years ago. They're probably planning some big pinteresty wedding and that's why they're having a long engagement. I'm sure if they're having a big wedding that is at least part of the motivation behind them having an "elopement" over just going to the court house.

March 18, 2015
11:01 am
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aviorion
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March 11, 2015

Ahhh, okay. Since Gabe shut his blog down and everything I think I just thought he and Lauren hadn't been together much longer than this whole Kait/Bobby deal, but now that you've mentioned that post I feel like I vaguely remember reading. Maybe those two will actually stay together then. (Even if the way they got together was shit. You're right, sometimes that happens but damn if it isn't cowardly.)

 

I just don't see Kait and Bobby lasting… I feel like she's addicted to chaos and drama and it will only be a matter of time before something happens and it's over and Kait is back to preaching about how she will never get married again. 

March 18, 2015
11:01 pm
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colormeconfused
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March 18, 2015

Hi hamcats! I had a GOMI account long ago, but I can't remember the email I used – made a new one when I found this thread. I always half-wondered why this thread didn't exist before!

 

I've been following her personal blog and Dear Scarlet since about 2008, 2009 and definitely love/hate her. I think she has matured a LOT since the Gabe days (which isn't saying much…) and once she got divorced, she got infinitely more bearable IMO. Her empty romanticizing of her relationship with Gabe was just a bit much, when clearly that relationship was a trainwreck from beginning to end.

 

Just to clarify, Gabe and Lauren have been dating/seeing each other (or "talking" as he put on insta) for 3ish years now. They've been engaged for one year. 

 

I agree that S really seems like she's two different kids, trying to please both sets of parents. It's sad. She does seem to have plenty of love all around and I hope that will be enough.

 

The registry pissed me off, especially how she edited it before mass-promoting it. Before she posted it on Dear Scarlet, she had more categories and you could see how much money had been donated to each category, which was a lot better and more transparent IMO. It just seems crazy to me (as someone who is eloping in September) to elope, which is supposed to be sensible and cost effective, but in doing so spend thousands and thousands of dollars. Like, her whole point seemed to be that it was her second wedding so she didn't want to create a fuss, but what? Go to the courthouse. Take some pretty pictures. Do something special local. Save up for a trip to Yellowstone.

 

One more thing I wanted to add, as she and Gabe were in the process of divorcing and after he'd gotten together with Lauren, Kait and Gabe had sex and he and Lauren broke up for a few weeks about it. This was before Lauren and Gabe went on a mass twitter deleting binge. Anyway, the times Kait has posted about that, she has like….bragged about it? Like, saying how Lauren's super insecure about her because she and Gabe had sex, "joke's on her," blah blah, and how it results in Lauren not doing what's best for S by putting those feelings aside. Which, okay, but I'm pretty sure screwing your taken ex-husband on a whim while going through a divorce isn't good for your daughter, either. I don't think either of them are bad parents, but yeah, that one thing stands out in my memory as a super bad moment for her.

March 19, 2015
10:07 am
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optimist13
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November 21, 2014

I liked her until the whole Cody II fiasco. Because like I said it went from lovey/dovey to dumping him pretty quickly. And to be honest, I feel like how she talks about Bobby is  lot like how she talked about Gabe and Cody II. It's all just empty romantical nonsense. I think she's an alright person, but she seems to want to justify all of her decisions without really admitting she was wrong. Like every time she does something it's because she's a parent, or because this is ~true love~ and it kills me when she'll go off about refusing to apologizing for making decisions that are right for her. Like, you don't have to apologize for anything, but not everything is some great and wonderful decision that's going to take you to a higher purpose.

I agree about the whole Lauren fiasco. Everyone involved gets on my nerves about equally, and I'm no one's side. But, I honestly think that a lot of Scarlet's complaints about Lauren came initially because she sensed how much Kait obviously dislikes her. And maybe it's a two-way street in that Lauren obviously has a lot of contempt towards Kait, too. I don't know.

She's been shamelessly grifting from people for a while, now. At least she did confirm that they have gotten enough in their travel fund (while in the same breath saying they still need money for other things, and her and Scarlet are getting manicures, and wanting to know things to do in Seattle). So, this whole "elopement" is turning into a f**king free vacation.

March 19, 2015
2:21 pm
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aviorion
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March 11, 2015

colormeconfused meowed
 

One more thing I wanted to add, as she and Gabe were in the process of divorcing and after he'd gotten together with Lauren, Kait and Gabe had sex and he and Lauren broke up for a few weeks about it. This was before Lauren and Gabe went on a mass twitter deleting binge. Anyway, the times Kait has posted about that, she has like….bragged about it? Like, saying how Lauren's super insecure about her because she and Gabe had sex, "joke's on her," blah blah, and how it results in Lauren not doing what's best for S by putting those feelings aside. Which, okay, but I'm pretty sure screwing your taken ex-husband on a whim while going through a divorce isn't good for your daughter, either. I don't think either of them are bad parents, but yeah, that one thing stands out in my memory as a super bad moment for her.

This was right about the time I stopped reading. I just couldn't deal with how ridiculous the whole situation was become. It was like she wanted a high-five for hate f**king her ex-husband and trying to ruin his new relationship. Clearly he isn't blameless in that act, but the way she acted afterward. rolleyes

March 19, 2015
6:29 pm
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colormeconfused
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March 18, 2015

Oh yeah, I totally think Gabe is a dick, but like…yeah. I don't think she pretends to be blameless in hindsight (or maybe that's just wishful thinking on my part) but during the thick of it, jesus. It was pretty awful.

I also agree with whoever said that S looks forced/posey in Gabe's pictures, but I hesitate to read into that. I just think Kait is a photographer, Gabe/Lauren aren't. So they do more "SAY CHEESE!" pictures, whereas Kait captures more spontaneous moments. I prefer Kait's pictures but, you know, I don't think there's much deeper meaning there about where S prefers to be. I think it's pretty clear (even from Kait's end) that S deeply loves her dad and enjoys being around him. Maybe this is typical for kids of divorce to seem like two different kids, but man, I feel bad for the kid. I see certain families that make divorce/separation amicable (RealityChangers on youtube is a good example of that) and it makes me so sad for kids like S whose parents can't put aside their differences to come together as parents. 

I didn't know that Gabe stopped posting on Dear Scarlet because Kait changed the password – was that said anywhere? I just assumed he wanted his own blog, but that's effed up if she changed the password. I thought Dear Scarlet would have been a really nice co-parenting effort if they kept it up together. It goes back to the messy breakup and all the mess since. This is kind of hard to articulate, but neither parent seems to acknowledge their daughter's experience in relation to the other parent. What I mean is, for example, Kait's posts about Halloween. "S has been this, this, and this" – well, yeah, except for all the things she's been at her dad's house. Again, I don't know how typical it is for the level of separation in a divorced household but it seems extreme and very, very sad. Like I said, I love/hate her blog and really wish everyone would just suck it up and get along already for the kid's sake.

March 20, 2015
6:09 pm
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elbow
Baroness of Ham
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November 8, 2012

I think im in the same boat as you colormeconfused. I don't despise kait or gabe like some people do, but very very happy to have a place to discuss some of the stuff that makes me think twice.

as for the dear scarlet password business, with tumblr you can have multiple blogs on the same account so my guess would be that d.s was a secondary blog on kaits account so she probably changed the password so gabe didnt have access to her central blog and messages etc. Annoying but understandable i think.

I also didnt know that kait is the one gabe cheated on lauren with! I remember all his grovelling and laurens ig and twitter went private quickly after that which kinda sucked cos i was on her team at least for that and cant see her photos anymore.

I find the gabescarlet/kaitscarlet differences so weird and sad and i wonder who is encouraging that. I know kait hasnt got any money (apparently….) but maybe gabe could get her a counsellor to talk to about everything. I wonder what weird things are going to happen down the line if the engagement/dog/wedding competition is anything to go by. Seems like lauren is keen to get knocked up on their honeymoon and kait has definitely gone back on her whole 'i never want to have another baby' stance.
I hope little S never feels sad about the new babies that are undoubtedly on their way





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