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Hungry Runner Girl
August 15, 2013
11:45 am
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SURI said

toohottorun said

The birthday post was a bit sad. Must be really emotional for her.

She said the celebrations would be with her, her mother and sister. Wonder if that's her way of saying Billy isn't coming over, or if he is and she's just not mentioning it.

I wonder if he'd want to or just doesn't care.

It is kinda sad. This is the first time I've felt bad for Billy. It had to be hard for him and his family not to see her on her 1st birthday.

I've actually thought about that before. I kind of feel sorry for Billy, and all other divorced-blog dads, there must be a ting of pain knowing that you're missing out on a lot of day to day activities, and knowing that you can see it with a twice daily updated (pre-divorce, she's not as frequent right now) blog. It's kind of sad.

I'm very curious about what's going to go down as far as custody and visitation are concerned, but I do respect Janea for understanding that her blog is not the place to address those issues. I'm sure as time goes on we'll get "Well, Brooke is off to her dad's this weekend" lines here and there.

 

ETA: Let's Get Franziaed, I've definitely noticed a change in her hair style. I actually got caught up with work and stopped reading her blog regularly around mid-June, and then BAM I got sucked into the separation/divorce speculation and the first thing I noticed was that her hair was flat.

Formerly Inspired Eyebrows
August 15, 2013
12:12 pm
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Darn thing won't let me quote but Let's Get Franziaed, I just figured it was break-up hair.

August 15, 2013
12:37 pm
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Lane2664 said

From the front page information on Janae's 'missing ring' – they dated it as last seen from July 29.

However through some sleuthing at pictures and post titles, I have found the remaining. (It has been apparently noted that she only took her ring off for swimming, not running previously. The 4th of July run indicates this statement as true. *She was wearing her ring)

This appears to outline ~5-6 wks where things started going south to ending. From my point of view – this is still a 'sudden' event.

 

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August 15, 2013
1:13 pm
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anadyne
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Lane2664 said

anadyne said

Happier Than a HLB said
This might be a stretch but I just can't help but imagine this post had shit not gone down with Billy. Can you imagine the excited, crazy, happy Janae writing a first birthday post?? I think some of the same lines would be there, but hot damn is that a bittersweet post. So sad to read :(

Yep, she'd probably be exactly as excited as she is while eating a donut. Or ice cream. Or painting her nails.

And ugh ugh ugh with the "my baby is my best friend and we are equally emotionally dependent on each other!"  I hope she can grow up and become a more emotionally solid mom post-divorce. And I do hope she and Billy can be an amicable and involved set of coparents together.

 

At least for me – your first child really does feel like your best friend, especially when you are with them 24hrs a day. I have felt the same way about my oldest when he was in his toddler years. Don't see this as immature or needy at all. Just truely in love being a parent and loving everything about her child.

 

I'm a mother as well, but to me a friendship is a relationship of equals, and a parent/child relationship isn't peer based or power-equal. I truly love being a parent and everything about my child, no less so because I do not consider her my social and emotional/intellectual peer. I love my friends, too, and I rely on the balance of our relationship to fill very normal companionship needs in my life that cannot be filled by a baby. At least in my world, a baby is one type of companionship and love, and a "best friend" is another, very different type of companionship and love.

To me this is more of HRG's "all things are equal" flatness. Baby = friend = sprinkles on ice cream for fulfilling emotional needs.  As I've said before, I don't honestly believe she's this shallow and vapid in her real life. I think her mindless immaturity is her blog "schtick" and she (I'm guessing, I'm hoping) is a much more mature, intelligent and dimensional person in the life she understandably conceals from her readers.

August 15, 2013
1:36 pm
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Miss Fancy Oats said

Lane2664 said

From the front page information on Janae's 'missing ring' – they dated it as last seen from July 29.

However through some sleuthing at pictures and post titles, I have found the remaining. (It has been apparently noted that she only took her ring off for swimming, not running previously. The 4th of July run indicates this statement as true. *She was wearing her ring)

This appears to outline ~5-6 wks where things started going south to ending. From my point of view – this is still a 'sudden' event.

 

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I'm not buying it. In a July 15th post, she said "(only NINE work days left….I am so ready to have a husband again during the week:)"  when talking about his internship being over. I think she was truly blindsided by whatever she filed for divorce over. 

August 15, 2013
1:43 pm
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The Luxury of Hermans
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Her "About Me" page is down at the moment. I wonder if she is re-tooling it in light of the divorce, or maybe it's just my computer.

I really feel for her… she is handling it so well, it seems. Strong person. 

August 15, 2013
1:48 pm
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Kitten said

Miss Fancy Oats said

Lane2664 said

From the front page information on Janae's 'missing ring' – they dated it as last seen from July 29.

However through some sleuthing at pictures and post titles, I have found the remaining. (It has been apparently noted that she only took her ring off for swimming, not running previously. The 4th of July run indicates this statement as true. *She was wearing her ring)

This appears to outline ~5-6 wks where things started going south to ending. From my point of view – this is still a 'sudden' event.

 

sha_clap2sha_clap2sha_clap2

I'm not buying it. In a July 15th post, she said "(only NINE work days left….I am so ready to have a husband again during the week:)"  when talking about his internship being over. I think she was truly blindsided by whatever she filed for divorce over. 

Could be a combo of both. Maybe they were having *some* problems and she felt they were on the road to recovery and therefore looking forward to spending time together after the 9 days. Then perhaps something happened that compounded or finalized what was already there, and that part was sudden.

August 15, 2013
1:59 pm
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Bloggeddown said

Kitten said

Miss Fancy Oats said

Lane2664 said

From the front page information on Janae's 'missing ring' – they dated it as last seen from July 29.

However through some sleuthing at pictures and post titles, I have found the remaining. (It has been apparently noted that she only took her ring off for swimming, not running previously. The 4th of July run indicates this statement as true. *She was wearing her ring)

This appears to outline ~5-6 wks where things started going south to ending. From my point of view – this is still a 'sudden' event.

 

sha_clap2sha_clap2sha_clap2

I'm not buying it. In a July 15th post, she said "(only NINE work days left….I am so ready to have a husband again during the week:)"  when talking about his internship being over. I think she was truly blindsided by whatever she filed for divorce over. 

Could be a combo of both. Maybe they were having *some* problems and she felt they were on the road to recovery and therefore looking forward to spending time together after the 9 days. Then perhaps something happened that compounded or finalized what was already there, and that part was sudden.

 I agree with this…I think Janae is a lot 'deeper' than people give her credit for (due to the writing style she chooses) and it would not surprise me at ALL if she kind of used titles of posts as a code.  But yeah…I think she had suspicions and either confronted him about it and he said he'd stop, etc. but then she found out he hadn't and that was it…something along those lines. 

August 15, 2013
2:01 pm
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redagain said

Kitten said
edit: This also makes me wonder if Billy won't see Brooke until December? He can't really travel during the school year and Janae probably isn't going to fly Brooke out to CA often. 

It's a 2 hour flight.  Assuming there isn't a bunch of drama and issues, he could see his daughter any weekend he wanted.

Assuming CA domestic relations law is similar to Illinois…she won't be able to move out Brooke of state without Billy consenting to it or a court order.  But I know nothing about CA law so this may not be the case at all! dance

August 15, 2013
2:24 pm
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The custody issue is going to be heinous. Janae and Brooke may be stuck in CA until the kid turns 18. It would be great if Billy decided not to be a d*ck about it but who knows. Unlikely if the divorce is acrimonious.

 

On the other hand, if he pulls a lot of underhanded sh*t, that could affect his future legal career since he has not passed the bar yet. (Of course, once he passes the bar, he can do whatever he wants.)

August 15, 2013
2:41 pm
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bee_elle said

redagain said

Kitten said
edit: This also makes me wonder if Billy won't see Brooke until December? He can't really travel during the school year and Janae probably isn't going to fly Brooke out to CA often. 

It's a 2 hour flight.  Assuming there isn't a bunch of drama and issues, he could see his daughter any weekend he wanted.

Assuming CA domestic relations law is similar to Illinois…she won't be able to move out Brooke of state without Billy consenting to it or a court order.  But I know nothing about CA law so this may not be the case at all! dance

I'm from Illinois too! smile And I work for a lawyer. So according to the rules of CaitlinHTP I can call myself a lawyer wink. Anyway, one client's ex recently moved to another state with the kids without consent by the father and he is having a hard time getting them back to Illinois. So even if she isn't supposed to be in Utah it might be a while until she is forced back to CA, but I'm sure the judge won't look too kindly on that sort of thing unless there is some sort of abuse going on. 

I wonder if it matters that they lived in Utah before moving to CA for Billy's school.  Like maybe she rushed to file so that she could prove that they really belong in Utah since they lived in CA for less than a year. idontknow

August 15, 2013
2:46 pm
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Eh…it all comes down to how it's argued. If Janea's lawyer is worth a damn she could argue that it would be in Janea's, and therefore Brooke's, best interest to be near her family. Especially if Billy was cheating and/or stealing her money as two people (one of which was later recanted) have stated. Plus, she has a teaching history in Utah and it is probably easier for her to obtain gainful employment in Utah over Cali, which will weigh heavily in her favor it she chooses to live there and/or needs to fight to prove.

We've never had a case with a minor this young, but my office (in Virginia) has worked on cases where the wife relocated to Texas within days of filing for divorce. Each parent pays half the travel cost it takes for the kid to go, and they work out a typical long distance co-parenting schedule.

 

ETA: I should note, Diabeetus is correct, if Janea took Brooke there without Billy's permission then it will make it so much harder for her to move to Utah. Judge's really don't like it when people take it upon themselves to establish jurisdiction, or attempt underhanded shit like that. However, in this case I don't think a Judge would (as long as Janea had Billy's consent) considering the facts of the case. Janea was making friends, but they weren't her confidants and that's truly what you need when you're in her situation.

 

AETA: The in the Texas case I referenced, the husband gave the wife consent to move to Texas because that's where her family was and she was easily able to find gainful employment. He didn't put up a fight, so the Judge just passed it right on through.

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August 15, 2013
2:54 pm
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I'm interested in seeing how dirty this divorce will get. The fact that they both retained attorneys so quickly speaks volumes to me. In my state a lot of people don't even use an attorney if it's an uncontested divorce and parents agree on custody. Which means Billy & Janae feel like there is something to fight over (blog money?, brooke?). I wonder if Billy is going to try to claim half of the blog profits or something. But Janae could of also got an attorney so she didn't need to be present for everything and allowing her to leave CA.

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