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A Practical Wedding
March 8, 2012
12:52 pm
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CelloChick
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January 5, 2012

Pendleton said

Well, shucks! I just got engaged (like, on Friday Laugh) and her book was recommended to me so I JUST bought it. 

Congratulations on your engagement!  I actually think I might start recommending the book to engaged friends (instead of recommending the website like I used to do).  I'm still a fan of the Practical Wedding ethos and I think APW does generally strike a balance and emphasis that is very hard to find elsewhere in Weddingland.  The website, however, is increasingly a turnoff for me, in part due to what seems like a Cult of Meg (which wouldn't be so bad if it were just the commenters, but Meg herself seems to be encouraging it/buying into it).

 

smd16 said

Case in point: the new lazy girl's how-to guide.  They were already doing guest DIY posts (but that seems to have fallen off), so this seems like it was just an excuse to go to the beach for a weekend, act silly, and craft with friends, including photos to prove it.

Yes. It's funny how Meg was much less into all the pose-heavy "look at me" stuff back when it was just a personal wedding planning blog, when it might have seemed more fitting (or at least normal), than she is now that she is the Publisher and Editor of Practical Media (or whatever title she's using).  Probably because she's made so many more fancy photographer friends?   "That's right. In that last picture I am totally posing as the cover my book(kinda like when we took those author photos). YOU'RE WELCOME."  a) I for one was not asking for that – was anybody? and b) I actually never would have noticed that was a similar pose, since the book cover nicely hides the silly cheek-in-hand part of the pose (and really, the red shoes are the only thing that stands out about that book cover). 

March 8, 2012
10:39 pm
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ramonarickettes

guest said

violetbeauregard said

 

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"Yes and YES.

I'm really glad this thread was started… If you read the comments section over there, especially when Meg's on a tangent about hauling up her own star, it's just the biggest WE LOVE MEG party. I really thought I was the odd chick out – how can I love everything about this site except the author?

 

Also, +1 about the stupidity of Wordless Weddings.

 

And… who thinks it will suck without Alyssa? I really enjoyed her writing and she was always respectful when she disagreed with someone in the comments. "

Haha to quote Meg, YOU'RE WELCOME!  I really thought I was alone in feeling this way. I tried to explain it to a co-worker after I added up all her sidebar ads and made a rough guess at how much she is making a month on ad revenue alone (A LOT!!) and I didn't have the words. I was actually banned from commenting a few years ago because I dared to call Meg out on not being all that non-WIC in the comments. Good times. 

 

Also, about Alyssa leaving. I really like the new girl Liz, because she's from Philly and not an idiot, but sometimes she tries to sound like Meg, so I am worried about the future of her personal blog. 

March 9, 2012
11:13 am
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violetbeauregard
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October 20, 2011

CelloChick said

Yes. It's funny how Meg was much less into all the pose-heavy "look at me" stuff back when it was just a personal wedding planning blog, when it might have seemed more fitting (or at least normal), than she is now that she is the Publisher and Editor of Practical Media (or whatever title she's using).  Probably because she's made so many more fancy photographer friends?   "That's right. In that last picture I am totally posing as the cover my book(kinda like when we took those author photos). YOU'RE WELCOME."  a) I for one was not asking for that – was anybody? and b) I actually never would have noticed that was a similar pose, since the book cover nicely hides the silly cheek-in-hand part of the pose (and really, the red shoes are the only thing that stands out about that book cover). 

 

Yes, I remember back when Meg was planning her own wedding, she was actually refreshingly discreet with the photos and that kind of thing. I imagine that was because she hadn't quit her job yet, and so was still blogging semi-anonymously. And of course, her ego had not swelled to the size of a city block yet. These days I cannot figure out if the issue is that she has a self-esteem that could feed the world, or rather if it is that she is so painfully intent on proving to the world how cool, and glamorous, and stylish she is. (Which, again, if you have to try so hard to prove…)

 

I think the APW archives would still be very useful for a woman planning her wedding, you just have to wade through a lot of junk to get to those nuggets of wisdom, and there is less and less space for diverging viewpoints. It's disappointing because, as I have said elsewhere in this thread, the narcissistic, super consumerist, "I'm the best at everything even though I've had a MUCH HARDER life than all of you!" attitude seriously, seriously undermines what is (was?) so great about the blog.

March 9, 2012
11:53 am
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Semi Mormon

Banned from APW?! Rock on ramonarickettes.  Meg occasionally b***hes about mean commenters on twitter and it always makes me want to track them down so we can snark together.

 

To the recently engaged Pendelton: congrats!  I will echo the sentiments of others that there is lots and lots of good stuff to take from the site (and probably the book) for wedding planning.  I only read half the book myself, because I got bored with it (I think I'm too far removed from the planning stages after being married for over a year), but I did notice that she (or her editors) kept all the attitude that we are complaining about here to a minimum in the book.  Which is good. 

 

These days, I'm still subscribed to APW, but I increasingly skim the posts.  None of the new writers really speak to me, and the sponsored posts are not interesting, and I care less and less about wedding grads.  I think this says more about me than it does about the blog, though.  If anything, Meg's attitude keeps me reading, because it is thoroughly entertaining.

March 10, 2012
10:38 am
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violetbeauregard
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October 20, 2011

Just looking through this dumb new "DIY" series, (I love the idea of a DIY series done in conjunction with an event planning company, haha), this sentence stuck out to me as exactly what I find so f**king annoying:

 

I am not, in any sense, a crafter (though I do know how to design and sew clothing from scratch, and how to knit, but those are practical skills I learned on my mom's knee).

 

"I am not a crafter, but lest you should have thought I wasn't the best at everything for a minute, let me explain that I am nevertheless amazing at making things, but you know, IMPORTANT THINGS. PS did I ever mention that I grew up poor?"

March 10, 2012
12:20 pm
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BABride

I thought those flowers looked awful. It looked like someone ran by a bush, took a big chunk off, and then tied some twine around it. 

March 10, 2012
12:56 pm
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Lindsay Weir
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December 5, 2011

I had never seen this website. I've always liked intimateweddings.com . They have back articles, but also a blog, and it ranges from DIY items to real weddings, and they post once a day. Much more my style.

March 12, 2012
1:33 pm
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ImagineWhirledPeas

Well, for everyone out there who enjoys APW and found it useful for wedding planning but can't stand Meg just rest assured that you are not alone! IMHO a lot of the regular commenters/sponsors realize that they have to play Meg's game in the comments in order to stick around and get what they want out of it (whatever that might be) but in real life it is a different story. Everyone knows things aren't always what they seem on the internet – I think that a lot of people have been driven away from APW because of meg or are still there but gagging to put up with her but clearly you aren't going to hear about that on the site itself.

 

Just speaking for myself I cannot stand Meg for reasons everyone here as pointed out: she's a petty, supremely insecure, self-absorbed, self-congratulatory a-hole. I want to point out for the record that Riverside California where she grew up is a shitty garbagey place but it's not like its Cabrini Green for f**ks sake. Plus everything she says about her family suggests that she grew up with very upper middle class values even if not an upper middle class income.

Disliking her on a personal level doesn't mean that I don't think she's a smart business person though, because she is. If you can do math you can figure that she is making six figures off her website so it is obvious she knows what she's doing in that way, which is FINE. Id rather give money to small businesses that advertise there than small businesses on the knot or martha stewart.  I can celebrate someone's business success without being their friend but I think this is a double standard: that women businesses have to be all buddy-pal-sorority-build-you-up and whatever whereas there is no expectation that men have to like eachother in the realm of business.

 

Anyway I have mixed feelings about websites like this that exist only to trash people bc I like to think I'm not *that* mean but damn it feels good to have an outlet. and frankly if you're going to make six figures of income off being a public figure then you can't really have the expectation that people won't decide to respond how they want with what you put out there.

March 12, 2012
4:12 pm
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Semi Mormon

Does anyone follow Lauren, of Better In Real Life, who used to contribute to APW?  I really don't have anything at all to support this, but I get the sense that she did not necessarily leave APW on good terms.  She just stopped writing with very little fanfare from Meg, and Meg never mentions her anymore (unlike Alyssa, who will still be affilated with the site, even though she's not doing the regular column anymore).  It seems weird, especially with how culty the new APW staff appears to be. 

March 12, 2012
10:59 pm
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midwestanon

Angry Mormon, I wondered the same thing. Asking either of them why she was leaving (at the time) did not generate any response from them.

 

Also, I used to Like on Facebook so I could at least see when a post might pop up on Reclaiming Wife that I wanted to read, but I don't think I can take much more "THIS IS THE MOST AMAZING POST EVER OMG YOU MUST READ IT" on the daily.

March 14, 2012
7:08 pm
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BABride

MEG WANTS NAPZ, Y'ALL!

March 15, 2012
8:19 pm
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Ishkabibble
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March 15, 2012

guest said

Well, for everyone out there who enjoys APW and found it useful for wedding planning but can't stand Meg just rest assured that you are not alone! IMHO a lot of the regular commenters/sponsors realize that they have to play Meg's game in the comments in order to stick around and get what they want out of it (whatever that might be) but in real life it is a different story. Everyone knows things aren't always what they seem on the internet – I think that a lot of people have been driven away from APW because of meg or are still there but gagging to put up with her but clearly you aren't going to hear about that on the site itself.

*Exactly! Sorry, couldn't help myself.  Through the book clubs I've become friends with several of the sponsors and ex-sponsors, and for the most part they have issues with her but the site sends great traffic that they don't want to lose. Which sucks, because there are some really wonderful amazing people who are vendors there and she's taking advantage of them.

For being such a private person, Meg has a real issue respecting other people's boundaries, contacting commenters and sponsors alike when a tweet or blog post "concerns" her, then asking them to take it down and apologize to her. 

I don't know about all her other issues, to be honest I find it interesting that she only seems to suffer from anxiety when she's not the center of attention, but she really needs to see someone about that narcissism problem.

March 16, 2012
8:47 am
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guest

Ugh. I once commented on a body image story noting that there was some fat shaming in it (gaining weight was 'disgusting,' a fat body was 'gross,' everything was better once weight was lost). I wrote a comment saying that FOR ME, this wasn't helpful, and I was trying to get rid of that kind of thinking before my wedding. Just noting that there was another way to think about it. 

 

I got jumped all over. (a lot of commenters 'exactly'd' me, but the cult-y commenters were not a big fan and neither was Meg). There was no engaging with what I was saying, just telling me that if I didn't have anything nice to say, I shouldn't have commented. Fine, but I don't comment there anymore. 



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