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Offbeat Bride
April 15, 2014
1:59 pm
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just delete my f**king account
Feline Porklord
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May 29, 2012

I don't know anything about Offbeat Bride but this one featured example tells me everything I need to know.

I mean, weddings should be a personal thing. I am all in favor of making your wedding unique and yours. But if you're trying too hard to be "different" or "edgy" or going for the shock value, you lose me there. To each his/her own.

 

Those tattoos, though… puke

April 15, 2014
2:08 pm
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bacon tulle
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April 14, 2014

Well I apologise, I had no intention of that one wedding being torn apart, I feel a bit bad about that TBH, I was just using it as ONE example. I was mailed a link to that article because I knew the bride and groom. I wasn't a guest but the pics which I waited for dearly, let's just say I was very confused. I thought, where are the *wedding* photos?! So when I was emailed the link of this article it sort of explained to me, ahh, I get it, you're just an Tribehard.

This is certaintly NOT the worst wedding OBB has seen!! Oh no!!

April 15, 2014
2:19 pm
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TurkeyVulture
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December 23, 2011

I honesty don't think that particular wedding represents OBB 100% of the time. Or even most of the time. Mostly I think the featured weddings are nice and low-key and seem very genuine and personal to the bride and groom.

But yeah, once in a while you get one where it just feels like the couple is striving so, so hard to display how OMG DIFFERENT they are to the world, and like I said upthread…I guess I'm just too old to get it now? I don't know. A part of me feels like I kind of understood why that was important back in my early 20s but now I don't really get the impulse to "fly your freak flag," as they say.

But I do think that in a world of The Knots and Style Me Prettys, it's really great to have a space where people can celebrate doing something different and personal for important life ceremonies.

April 15, 2014
3:44 pm
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Atop

I was just disappointed with Offbeat Bride because I thought that it would actually feature NON-TRADITIONAL weddings. It really doesn't. Maybe they're kind of "alternative" or something, but for the most part it's still couples having gigantic expensive weddings with all of the usual trimmings, just in different colors or with an unusual theme. Does the fact that the bride wore a short dress and some of the wedding party wore OMGBLACK make it that "off-beat"? And like, okay, you had a Doctor Who wedding… but you still had 200 guests, did a garter toss, had a formal dinner afterwards, hired a DJ, etc. How "different" was it really?

It's also irritating when they call a wedding "tiny" and there are still 25 – 50 people attending. 

April 15, 2014
4:07 pm
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TurkeyVulture
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December 23, 2011

Well, they featured mine and the editor who communicated with me seemed very excited to do so (super nice staff there, too.) I didn't get the impression that they thought mine wasn't their typical content at all. Yes, you do see a lot that stick pretty close to the typical wedding script, but I've seen tons that were small, inexpensive, and/or very unusual when it came to features other than "theme."

April 16, 2014
4:22 am
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stay in bed cat mom

TurkeyVulture said
Well, they featured mine and the editor who communicated with me seemed very excited to do so (super nice staff there, too.) I didn't get the impression that they thought mine wasn't their typical content at all. Yes, you do see a lot that stick pretty close to the typical wedding script, but I've seen tons that were small, inexpensive, and/or very unusual when it came to features other than "theme."

That bouquet is seriously impressive! sha_clap2

April 16, 2014
7:43 pm
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GrapeJelly
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April 16, 2014

Hi!

Brains on toast here.

I promise we're real, and not Mormons or bloggers (?), and those are thighs, lol.

I love our PB&J tattoos, because we stick together like peanut butter and jelly through the best and worst of times. Lots of people hate the tattoos, though, and that's okay!

The wedding was one of the most fun days of my life and I cherish all the photos. It was a weird wedding, but we are weird people. Weird people who love each other fiercely. Our lives have changed so much and our kids have grown up so much since then (7 years! ). It's nice to look back on them, so thanks to the person who sent me this link! PeanutButter and I love each other and our kids madly and wouldn't change a thing about our wedding day.

And no hard feelings towards anyone on this thread – snark is what makes the interwebs go round! :)

Vivian Snarkbloom said

Religious Nut Butters said

Derp-opus said

Vivian Snarkbloom said

I love that Offbeat Bride linked to their Flickr account.

NICE INK, BRO.

Seriously, I KNOW it's supposed to be jelly, but Jesus, all I see is brains smeared on bread. dead

I was going to post the same thing!

Mmmm…..brains on white. It's what's for (zombie) breakfast.

What part(s) of the body is that? dead

April 16, 2014
9:00 pm
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Croosets in Trendy Colors
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Meows: 871
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August 29, 2013

Thank you for clarifying that you love your husband, us hamcats would probably not have guessed that as we tend to assume most people in this day and age get married to secure land and property, and to produce pure blood lines for matters of inheritance.

Formerly known as Lean In Right Over a Cliff
April 17, 2014
2:41 am
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It Happened to Me
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Meows: 89
Snarking Since:
August 26, 2012

Mmm… bloodlines.
Mmm… peanut butter and brains sandwich.

 

Oh, right. 5 or 6 years ago, before I decided to hang up my graphic designer hat, I illustrated and designed invitations and such for a woman I knew but wasn't really friends with. I was quite pleased with the work I did for this person, since she liked it — she even had somebody sculpt their cake topper to look like the illustration I'd done for her invitations. So when she was featured on OBB and shared the link, I went to take a look and while I did see my work on there, this offbeat bride did not credit me, but gladly thanked everyone in comments who told her how awesome the invitations and motif were.

I am 100% aware that this was not the fault of OBB or those in charge of it, and I do agree that it's nice to see wedding blogs that are more inclusive, but it left a bad taste in my mouth for offbeat wedding stories in general. 

The conclusion to this lame story: earlier this week, I saw that woman on a mutual friend's Facebook feed and discovered that she is no longer married to the person with whom she'd had her offbeat wedding. I have to admit that information actually made me feel sad, because when we'd talked about her offbeat wedding plans, she did seem to hit upon this idea that this wedding had to reflect who they really were, a wedding that felt too stiff and staged to them wouldn't befit their special love. I can't say what happened between them but maybe people should put that wedding planning "must be special, like us" energy into the conflicts and compromises that come with being married. 

(By the way, I think no one in a relationship should be allowed to claim to share an "extraordinary love" within, at the very least, the first ten years of a committed relationship. I'd prefer the moratorium last until you've been with someone for about thirty years. Or better yet, don't use the expression at all. I love my husband, but I don't deserve a medal for caring about someone who listens to my lame stories, helps out with the rent and does me a few times a week.) 

Also, hasn't any of you heard of a "morning after photo?" I think that's an example of one above… 

April 17, 2014
11:10 am
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Vivian Snarkbloom
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Meows: 500
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February 10, 2013

I love when the blahgers show up. drool

GOMI is a vile rat hole now, but there's no option to delete my account.
April 17, 2014
12:06 pm
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Fiercely Intelligent Cow Playing Pickleball and Sockpuppeting my Amazon Reviews
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March 25, 2013

Lean In Right Over a Cliff said
Thank you for clarifying that you love your husband, us hamcats would probably not have guessed that as we tend to assume most people in this day and age get married to secure land and property, and to produce pure blood lines for matters of inheritance.

Don't forget 'preventing someone from being deported'!

April 17, 2014
1:03 pm
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shortandstouts
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Meows: 975
Snarking Since:
June 10, 2013

I loved OBB when I first got engaged and joined the "tribe." I had posted on one of the threads about the verbiage we were using in our ceremony to acknowledge the importance of marriage equality (we actually considered waiting to get married until marriage for all was legal at least in our state but financially, it wasn't the smartest decision and those closest to us who can't get married really encouraged us to do it despite that). One of the moderators took offense that a woman, marrying a man, would consider it appropriate to "celebrate" equality in our ceremony "as though that would actually make a difference." I went on to explain that we also, in lieu of favors, donated to several charities, one of which was a national organization dedicated to GLBTQ rights campaigning and the other to a small, local charity that works with GLBTQ youth. Apparently, that still wasn't good enough and she began to remove a bunch of my posts for various "infractions" of the policy that clearly were not actually against the policy at all. It was not worth my time to argue about it so I abandoned the site and haven't been back since. Kind of a bummer because there were some cool ladies that were getting married on the same day I was and I'd love to see how their days turned out but meh. 

April 17, 2014
1:05 pm
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postit
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Meows: 565
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March 21, 2013

GrapeJelly said
Hi!

Brains on toast here.

I promise we're real, and not Mormons or bloggers (?), and those are thighs, lol.

I love our PB&J tattoos, because we stick together like peanut butter and jelly through the best and worst of times. Lots of people hate the tattoos, though, and that's okay!

The wedding was one of the most fun days of my life and I cherish all the photos. It was a weird wedding, but we are weird people. Weird people who love each other fiercely. Our lives have changed so much and our kids have grown up so much since then (7 years! ). It's nice to look back on them, so thanks to the person who sent me this link! PeanutButter and I love each other and our kids madly and wouldn't change a thing about our wedding day.

And no hard feelings towards anyone on this thread – snark is what makes the interwebs go round! :)

Vivian Snarkbloom said

Religious Nut Butters said

Derp-opus said

Vivian Snarkbloom said

I love that Offbeat Bride linked to their Flickr account.

NICE INK, BRO.

Seriously, I KNOW it's supposed to be jelly, but Jesus, all I see is brains smeared on bread. dead

I was going to post the same thing!

Mmmm…..brains on white. It's what's for (zombie) breakfast.

What part(s) of the body is that? dead

I have to say, pretty graceful post. Thanks for chiming in without getting defensive.



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