Emily Schuman, now officially insufferable, has posted about the “single biggest tip” she’s “learned from therapy”. In a nutshole, it sounds like her therapist has encouraged her to believe she’s perfect and that anyone who is critical is “projecting”.
In a post that will have Jenna Cole emailing Cuppy for her therapist’s number, Emily begins by whining about how choosing to be a public figure has made her life like, so hard guys.
When I’m criticized, even by strangers, my first reaction is to be sad, which is compounded by the public nature of my job. I love what I do, but making myself vulnerable to negative feedback can be difficult.
You guys it’s so hard to like, have a job, and deal with customers and clients having opinions that aren’t always positive! Negative feedback make Cuppy sads. : ( Thankfully her therapist has provided her with the ages old excuse to dismiss any negative experience.
But my therapist recently shared some insight with me that I’ve found particularly helpful…It’s not about you, it’s about them.
The elevated version of ‘they’re just jealous’ works in every situation!
Instead of asking yourself, “What did I do to deserve that?” ask “What happened to them to make them so angry in this moment?”
Well, most of us don’t have time to sit around trying to figure out why someone was a dickhead in the grocery line, but you do you. Which leads her to sum up why narcys loooove this kind of therapist.
By placing the burden on them rather than yourself, it makes it much easier to brush off.
Ding! Tell yourself the other person has personal issues or mental health problems or bad relationships or or or or or and then you’re free to ignore anything you don’t want to hear! Oh the magic of Asspat Therapy. Glennon Doyle would be so proud!