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Lauren Can’t Wait To Honor 9/11


Lauren, of Southern Elle Style which is apparently some kind of wannabe lifestyle blog, posted a moving tribute in honor of the events of 15 years ago. Holding a mug inscribed with the word “Joy” and pigeon toeing while sitting down, Lauren proceeds to tell the world she is

Extremely and utterly exhausted from yesterday, but I can only imagine how many people felt like that and worse, 15 years ago and still today. Can’t wait to see how they honor the fallen and heroes, today at the Cowboys game…

Bloggers: if there is ever a day to not make about yourself, this might be it. Please just…don’t.

  1. Twodognight

    I'm not sure which makes me want to punch her in the face more, the twee pigeon toes or her PS:buy this shit on my affiliated link. I guess I could just punch her twice and call it even.

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  2. Walmart Sweatpants

    Not familiar with her. Does she always purse her lips in that smugass Stasia Bowen-esque smirk?

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    • Mrs. Hughes

      I knew she reminded me of someone!

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  3. Validate me, I bought salami

    What in the actual f**k???

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  4. Señorita Margarita

    Never heard of this chick, but I will say that she looks pretty young, and this year, I've really noticed a generation gap opening up between those who were old enough to actually remember the day, and those that were just kids. I mean, still, no excuse whatsoever. She seems like a total brain fail. It's just interesting to note that most college freshmen would've been toddlers on 9/11. I, on the other hand, was freshly graduated from college, living in my first solo adult apartment, and I'll never forget how shocking that day was, and how it seemed like everything stood still, and how everything was closed for a week afterwards, etc. It's hard to imprint those sorts of visceral memories upon people who weren't there or not old enough.

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    • White Space

      This is such an interesting observation. My husband works with kids, none of whom were even born in 9/11. He's at work today and was struggling with how to address 9/11. He grew up in a DC suburb and went to school with kids whose parents worked at the Pentagon, so his memories from that day included worrying about his friends' family members. It's still imprinted so strongly in our memories what that day was like and the following weeks and months. How do you explain the gravity of that to people who don't or can't remember? I shouldn't have to explain to anyone why this chick's post was wrong. But still....I guess it's like our grandparents trying to explain Pearl Harbor.

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      • Quarter Assed Quilt

        How do you explain the gravity to people who can't remember? You just muddle through and do your best to convey it. I was 8 months pregnant on 9/11 with my first child. He's now a freshman in high school. He has a pretty good sense of the gravity of the day. He is solemn when asking about it, and is old enough to comprehend the lingering effects we still have from it. One of my younger children (age 9) was asking about 9/11 this morning and I explained in simple terms what happened - and how frightening it was for our country. And then on her own she went and changed her outfit into a red, white, & blue ensemble and is now painting watercolor flags.
        I don't know. But I definitely think that if my third grader can have some reverence for the day, that this blogger chick could drum up some perspective.

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        • snarkaceratops

          OT but it seriously just blew my mind that a child you were pregnant with on 9/11 is in high school. Logically, the math makes sense and I *know* it, but it's still mind-boggling.

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    • M

      I was in 4th grade on 9/11, and I can still remember the terror and heartbreak. She looks to be about the same age as me, so I don't think her youth is any excuse here. If she wanted to post an affiliate link in a post about the Cowboys, sure, whatever. However, in my opinion a post about 9/11 should never be approached so lightly.

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  5. Convulsing Diaphragm, Uncontrollable Spasms

    She was exhausted after a day of taking bridal photos?! Give me a god damned f**king break! That is not exhausting compared to anything, from 9/11 first responders to a single mother working 2 jobs to support her kids. This girl has no perspective.

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  6. Severus Snark

    I'm guessing her WKs would claim it's no big because she's such a "sweetheart", as if that sort of irony isn't perfect reinforcement for how gross this is.

    Wonder how comfortable that "sweetheart" would be if an actual survivor or first responder read her half-assed and self-obsessed use of their trauma and sacrifice to shill on Instagram.

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  7. Twodognight

    I know that photo is just posed, but she probably has all the cat hair in that mug now. I know when I drink my coffee I'm sure to hold my guinea pig right above the cup against me so all the hairs can flavors my drank.

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  8. oh, you

    I want an IG of Lauren but Barbie dolls for every day of remembrance.

    "Getting wicked tan on the beach, OMG sads for Normandy you guys! Hit the link for my Coppertone review!"

    "Sooooo starving after wine country, but not as #thinspo as Auschitz campers. 🙁 Check the blog for 20% striped pajamas at my Etsy store!" #Happy InternationalHolocaustRemembranceDay

    "Rocking my festival headdress, listening to Marley and thinking about the Trail of Tears. Also, check my collab with Nordstrom for the best looks for summer, whether you're marching the catwalks or across the West to your painful deaths!"

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    • Convulsing Diaphragm, Uncontrollable Spasms

      "Went boating all day, and definitely got a lot of sun! It's nothing compared to the service men and women who worked to rescue fellow service members during Pearl Harbor! Click the link below for details on my swimsuit!"

      "Wore heels all day for my bridal photo shoot, my Dr. Scholls gel inserts (clink my like to know it link below!) helped keep my feet comfortable! I'm totally exhausted from playing dress up all day and working so hard, like the 9/11 first responders who had to climb stairs up the World Trade Centers!"

      "Wedding day! Click the link below for my wedding details! As I was putting on my veil (like to know it link below!!!!) I thought about poor child brides and really hope that everything goes off today without a hitch!"

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  9. Dr. Mindy Lahiri

    I get that many people are now too young to really remember the attacks. The silence of the skies for days after. The tears. The images. The utter horror. But there's no excuse for sheer ignorance. There's too much video out there, too many recorded testimonies, too many pictures. There's no excuse for this.

    Then again, we have idiots catching Pokemon at Auschwitz and taking selfies at Holocaust memories. I guess nothing should really surprise me anymore when it comes to narcissism.

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  10. Pricklypete

    Stupid pursed lip look-check
    Pigeon-toe cutesy pose-check
    Thoughtless, tacky comment-check
    Insulting all of humanity with your insensitivity-check.

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  11. KipDynamite

    I've seen a lot of this today. Idk if it's because it's been 15 years and people don't know what to say anymore or what, but those who I like AND don't like have been so self-centered. It's mindboggling. If you don't have anything ~deep to say, post a remembrance meme/photo and move the f**k on. This day isn't about you.

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    • Ja'Crispy

      I agree. And if nothing else just don't post today, it can be a day of silent remembrance. Then again, "silent" isn't usually in a bloggers vocabulary...

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  12. Lauren spann

    You're right. I was a 5th grader when it happened. My mug actually says "always choose joy" which is why I thought it was a perfect cup for today. I'm a Christian and believe that even in the harderst of times there is a chance to choose joy and be a light. I didn't want it to pass by without acknowledging it, which I why I mentioned it. I was never saying it was the same as me being tired from taking photos. It's not. I'm sorry if that seemed offensive. I edited my wording in hopes that my intent would be understood. I actually talked about my feelings about today on my snapchat. I linked my clothes because I knew people would ask and I don't always have time to respond to comments. In no way was my intent to profit from the significance of this day, and I apologize to all who were offended.

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    • Dorothy Zbornak

      "Always choose joy" is a perfect sentiment for the anniversary of 9/11? No. No, no, nope, no, no. And no. That's just absurd. And tacky and obtuse. That's not an emotion that any healthy person would or could choose in the face of such of an event. No.

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      • JuliasTooSmallTutu

        It's also shaming those who because of mental illness or other situations outside of their control cannot "choose" joy. Like anyone dealing with personal loss today. I never want to hear from this Lauren moron again.

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        • i love chili dogs

          Or all the people who f**kING DIED on 9/11 and cannot "choose joy" because they are f**kING DEAD

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    • Convulsing Diaphragm, Uncontrollable Spasms

      How old you were then, and how Christian you are is irrelevant. It's tacky to affiliate link to something you as an individual will profit from in a post about 9/11. It doesn't seem offensive, it IS offensive. One of the biggest things people have taken away from 9/11 is to make the day one of service to the country and others - you didn't link to ways people can provide charity and service, you linked to a f**king nightgown you stand to make money on. It's gross.

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    • in soviet russia dog strangles you

      You hashtagged the photo #katespadeny #bunnyslippers #softsmile and #911 #neverforget.

      Tacky, dude. Don't hashtag your Kate Spade with #neverforget on 9/11. Just don't.

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    • K

      Maybe you should just delete this post instead of merely editing the wording. It's offensive.

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    • waffletwat

      As someone else who was in fifth grade when 9/11 happened, shame on you. You are clearly showing your ignorance and vapid self-centeredness.

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    • KipDynamite

      Lol at this explanation. I'm only 5 years older than you, so this BS about excusing the younger folks doesn't fly with me. I didn't even know wtf the WTC was until the attacks. But, it didn't take long to figure out. Plus... it's been 15 years. You could have found a million different ways to commemorate the day without looking like a vapid dumbass.

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    • Severus Snark

      It's okay, guys, SHE'S A CHRISTIAN! That's not privilege and ego speaking, that's a catch-all umbrella of unstated, unapparent Good Intentions that make being a dick okay! The post-9/11 world just REALLY needed The Lauren Spann to step out of grade school to tell them on IG "good vibes only" and affiliate links are the answer. The Lauren Spann, Fifth Grade Terrorism Expert and Important Public Speaker Whose Opinion Is Totes Needed. I'm only sad they didn't broadcast her that very day.

      If you're wondering, Lauren, rambling about it even more on Snapchat is exactly the opposite of what you should have done. Someone so self-unaware should probably stop attempting to "be a light" to those who know what the f**k they're talking about. This day isn't about you, your gram, your faith, or your links, and you have no business pretending otherwise.

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    • Paddy

      Shame on you, Lauren, for affiliate linking 9/11, and shame on you for half-heartedly apologizing "to all who were offended" instead of apologizing for having been offensive.

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    • JuliasTooSmallTutu

      Your deepest thought in your post is about looking forward to a football's all wrong.

      I was a full adult on 9/11 who went into the subway that day in one world and came out in a new, terrifying one. A lifelong New Yorker with a father who worked that crime scene for years after and now suffers from the effects. I saw it all go down in real time. You want to see a f**king football game and make some money off your outfit.

      f**k off.

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    • Convulsing Diaphragm, Uncontrollable Spasms

      I can picture her at her computer editing her post thinking, "Well, I've been called out - do I want to just address 9/11 or post some affiliate links?"


      "Affiliate links!"

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    • madlibs

      Psht, I was in 4th grade when it happened, that's no excuse to ct like an asshole.

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    • irisheyes

      Why did you have to post anything at all? Honestly, on a day like today, maybe silence is the best way to remember the day. Or, post a picture of the Twin Towers with a simple caption "Praying for the families that are grieving today." It's really not that hard.

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    • say no to lularoe

      To spare y'all from having to watch her Snapchats, she prefaces her 9/11 "feelings" speech with "before I talk about football", as that is clearly her priority for the day. She goes on to talk about joy and making a point to be happy and have fun today because people in this country are celebrating birthdays and all sorts of good things, so this is a happy day too. It's just as repulsive as her Instagram post and crazy explanation on here.

      I do see she removed any mention of 9/11 on that Insta post. She chose a cutesy bunny ears emoji and shilling her sleepwear over remembering the heroes and victims of September 11.

      To top it off, she's linked 3 more posts today, trying to make a BUCK $$$

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    • Dr Whom

      Bless you heart, looks like you need a lil help here. ( I'm a Noo Yawkah. Listen up)

      9/11 is sacred and a solemn occasion because people lost their lives that day in horrific ways that cut through the very fabric of what it means to be American.

      It is NEVER about you and WTF YOU feel unless YOU lost one of those people directly that day.

      Shameless links and stupid "I'm a Christian, Choose Joy ( barf)" platitudes do nothing to honor the memory of those whose lives were tragically snuffed out that day by terrorists.

      No matter how you spin this, the backpedaling just makes you look like a vapid teenybopper with short-sighted world views.

      Advice for next year- Put up a pix of a flag/memorial/whathave you and observe a day of silence on your blahg.

      Remember, talking comes by nature-silence, by wisdom.

      Hope you have learned something here today.

      (Another one that drives me nuts like this is Thrifty Decor Chick and her wanna be New-Yorker schtick. UGH. )

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    • oh, you

      I am sure if the people who jumped to their fiery deaths could have had the "joy" option, they would have. So your mug? Not as whimsically delightful as you may think.

      Perhaps next year you'll avoid the twee pose/cup/kitten/ducklips/AFFILIATE LINK (spare me the excuse), and acknowledge that while you played dress up for this completely staged "spontaneous" morning shot, a lot of us got up, put on black, and stared at photos of loved ones we lost that day.

      Learn from this. Learn one goddamn thing in your life, and let it be today: This tragedy is not about you. And I swear to God, if I see a "OMG YOU GUYS I WAS SO BULLIED THIS WEEK BUT I ROSE ABOVE IT BECAUSE #CHOOSEJOY" post from you, I will curse you with hearing nothing but survivor's screams of pain for loved ones lost for the rest of your life.

      If you ever wonder why bloggers get a bad rap for being vapid twits, congrats, you've just unlocked why.

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    • Top Hat Fancy

      Giiiirl.. What you posted on Snapchat is irrelevant for people who don't use Snapchat. So your feelings on SC is a moot point. I don't get why bloggers think if we follow you on one medium that we have enough time to follow you on all the mediums.. We don't. Here's a concept most bloggers should try. It's called thinking before posting. Look into it.

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    • Pineapple Head

      Thank you for confirming that you are an ignorant moron. Alas you being dumb as bricks doesn't excuse you from this. Delete the post. It's offensive. You're offensive. I'm sure you still don't see what the big deal is, I mean your fans totally were going to ask about your totes adorbs clothes so no biggie.

      The thing is, you woke up and styled a quick shoot with your oh so perfect mug, made cutesy faces, got your feet at the perfect twee angle, probably took a few photos, edited it and thought of the caption, thought of the hashtags, added affiliate links and then posted it.

      Just because you're a Christian doesn't mean you're a good person.

      You are what is wrong with society.

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    • Near Naked Nether Region

      Oh you're a Christian. Well then hashtag away

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    • Babby Forming Despite Life-Threatening Heels

      Thank you for reminding me to "always choose joy." The next time I'm evacuated from a building and running through the streets to safety, and watching people leap out of windows, and walking home in ash, and smelling burning rubble and corpses for weeks and weeks, I'm going to do it with a smile on my face!!! YOU'RE SO RIGHT OMG HASHTAG CUTE HASHTAG PRADA HASHTAG LIFE HASHTAG LOVE!!!!!!

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    • MissMorland

      Oh, child. Bless your little OMGChristian heart.

      Maybe just stop talking for awhile, 'k? It's amazing what you learn when you listen instead.

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    • Coma Thruster

      Sometimes silence is exactly what is needed. 9/11 is more about honoring the lives lost and those who were affected by the loss. There are children who lost parents that day, parents who lost children, husbands who lost wives, wives who lost husbands, etc.etc. But, not just any loss, mind you; they lost their loved ones in an atrocious and horrifying way, broadcast on live television. There were people jumping from those buildings because there was no other option. How horrific. I don't think "choosing joy" is what people were thinking as the building collapsed on them. The ones falling from the heights of that building probably were not concerned about your religious and/or spiritual beliefs or your ability to "choose joy" in your nicely sheltered little box.

      Step outside of your little box and open your eyes to the real world. You know, the world that Jesus actually sees. That world does NOT look a thing your carefully planned Instagram poses. If you are a Christian and it is that important to you, how about getting off of your social media platform and, oh, I don't know....go out and feed hungry people, help the sick, volunteer to work with orphans or animals or any other number of things you can do to GIVE BACK.

      Your nightgown and your coffee mug does absolutely NOTHING to speak love into the lives of those who need it. That is a concept even Jesus can understand.

      Do the right thing and remove your posts, stop the snap-chatting, and learn why silence might be the better option for you.

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    • giant fleshy toddler

      "I apologize to all who were offended."

      Wrong choice of words there. It was and is offensive, it's not a matter of taste.

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  13. Little Broom On The Prairie

    Lauren, have you ever seen pictures of people jumping from the towers that day? Google it, and other horrifying pictures (the Pentagon and the Pa crash, too) .... and then try to understand why your "football", "find joy", "buy this", "I'm a young Christian, so....", cutesy picture, and ridiculous hashtags are so offensive and insensitive. Don't get butthurt, but try to learn something instead. What if one of those people who lost their life was a family member of yours? Would you want a stranger to treat it like you did on social media?

    I don't think bloggers, etc have to post about it if they don't know what to say, but if they do, it should be heartfelt and respectful--not exploiting such a tragedy with links to buy stuff.

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