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We Wore What Will Instagram Your Hospice

Danielle Bernstein, sensitive, is apparently spending the final moments with a family member updating her instagram.

She begins with a post announcing she is “trying to cope” with “saying goodbye”, complete with tear jerk picture.


Obviously this caused her fangirls to flood her with the DMs her sympathy thirst trap was clearly designed to elicit. Rather than put her phone down Danielle read the DMs to her mom and then had to let everyone know how moved she was.


She then posted several screenshots of the “incredible” DMs, because obviously that’s more important than looking up from instagram long enough to figure out how “to cope” with the “most difficult thing” she’s “ever had to do”.

I guess the message here is don’t die around Danielle unless you want to be used for content on instagram.

  1. Twincer

    Doesn’t seem like she’s taking advantage of the situation “for content”. Because her life is shared on IG, it seems reasonable for her to look for support there too

    • justwow

      Here’s a reasonable way to look for support in this situation: post a black screen with the words “please keep my poppy in your thoughts as we say goodbye to him in hospice”. BOOM. Even that is pretty f**king thirsty, but she didn’t need to insta story his hand, or her grandma, or herself crying in the car. That time spent on Instagram is time she could have spent laying, speaking, being with her beloved poppy. You better believe the only reason my phone would come out in that situation would be to speak to family if needed. Such an attention wh**e.

      • birthing like a pilgrim

        100% agree with justwow. Even if you do live your life very, very publicly, certain situations demand sensitivity and discretion. I’m sure she loves her grandfather very much, but Snapchatting his impending death seems really exploitative.

        • BlissfulIgnorance

          Get support online once he’s gone, don’t waste the final moments together interacting with other people!

          • Kat

            As someone who very recently lost their husband, I cannot “THIS” enough. The time spent in those final moments, goes by oh-so-quickly. I wish I would’ve spent more time in those moments with my sweet guy, than in staying in constant communication with others (even if it was to share his current status).

    • artisanal twitter account

      Truly don’t understand how anyone can defend this.

    • seven-dollar sandwich

      SHE lives her basic life on the ‘gram. HER RELATIVE did not sign up for this garbage. How can you even defend this garbage behavior? I have an idea for you. Explain this scenario to your aged relatives and see what they think.
      I’ll wait.

      • Boo boo the Burrito

        You’re going to be waiting for a long time. No one owes you an explanation or needs your ‘ideas’.

        But on the other hand, this is so bad it’s comical. People on the gram must really need them clicks. She’s not the only one who has had someone die in hospice, so I’m not sure why all the melodrama. Ugh.

  2. Avenging Animal

    Who is photographing her in the second photo? Is that a selfie? Or did tell a family member to photograph her crying? In either case, for me it’s totally WTF.

    • Sticker Shock

      “Can you stop crying yourself or a minute, mom? I need you to take a picture of my pain at its best angle.”

      • Apologetically Feministy

        If I could, I would click the THIS! button a 100 times. Thank you, Sticker Shock, for this amazing comment.

    • Jen

      I still don’t get why people posting snaps/IGs/photos of themselves crying is such a thing.

  3. DIRECTOR Alina

    For those with a background in Julia Allison’s famewhoring, all this is missing is the phrase, “lots and lots of Bach.”

    What is with these tools and hospice oversharing?

  4. hash_tag

    All rhetoric regarding the sheer amount of disrespect aside, I find this crapola frightening.
    Welcome to the future folks — in a few years the screen junkies we are currently raising (&enabling) will think nothing of live streaming your last gasps, in fact it will probably be the norm.
    If they can even look away from the device long enough to notice your death.

    • Adulting is hard

      Oh man can you imagine? Can’t make it on time to see the final moments of nana? Don’t worry I’ll face time/ Snapchat you when she starts cheyne stoking so you can watch her final breaths. You could even do it in the club if you don’t want to waste time getting to the hospital.
      Ok this was my app idea, nobody steal it.

      • Jen

        I will say that when one of my great-aunts died, they did livestream her funeral, which I found weird, but it let family from across the country ‘participate’. (My mom was keen on watching it, as it was her aunt, and Mom wasn’t been able to attend the funeral).

        That was a service offered by the funeral home, and it was at least done tastefully and with respect for the deceased and the family.

        • The Goblin Queen

          This scenario makes sense. When my friend’s mom passed away in Venezuela her relatives also did something similar so that my friend could see the funeral ceremony. My friend couldn’t attend it because she was waiting for some immigration docs in the mail and she wasn’t allowed to leave the country.

          This person here though is doing it for attention. It’s so sad that nowadays people think they have to record every moment of life, nothing is sacred and private anymore. It baffles me that in moment of grief, a strange light bulb will light up saying “grab your phone right now and record this”, take a selfie or ask someone to take a picture of her crying!!!!!!
          I can’t believe her family was okay with it. If anyone of my close family is on his death bed I wouldn’t want anyone doing stories or taking pictures to post on social media.

        • ziegfeldgirl

          There’s a difference in streaming a service meant to honor a loved one who has passed so those who can’t attend can participate and whoring out the last moments of someone’s life.

  5. pearls_clutched

    Ugh! Nothing is private anymore. We are in the times of overshare. Thankful my family doesn’t do this.

  6. Dame Helen Chichester

    Don’t forget that these hospice stories were sandwiched in between videos of her shaking her ass and feeling herself up on the dance floor, and fun boat pictures from Father’s Day. She’s the actual worst.

  7. Pineapple McCrazy Eyes

    I know I’m an old, but I just don’t get this mentality, even though this is not the first time I’ve seen it. When I was in the hospital, by my mother’s side during her final days, the f**king LAST thing on my mind was posting anything online. Granted, I’m not a blahgger or an Instagram celebrity, but really, I could not imagine my mom would approve of posting photos from her deathbed for the purposes of gaining internet sympathy and head pats.

    I cringe in secondhand embarrassment for these people.

  8. fungez

    I’m a fairly private person, and I have a horror of dying old and infirm.* If a family member wanted to post that for page views, I’d do my best to haunt them.

    *I’ve told my kids that when the time comes, to hold the pillow over my head ’til I quit kicking. They say they’re looking forward to it.

  9. I rode Ruby off the rails with my beefy ladylegs

    I cannot believe someone would wh**e out a dying relative for clicks and likes. I mean, really! I take that back, i actually CAN believe it. Even worse, she did it, posted a dramatic photo of her grieving with the nastiest trailer-park roots ever. She must have come straight from bingo at the community center at Myrtle Manor.

    I’m feeling mean and I don’t think it should be allowed to take pictures of someone who is in their most vulnerable part of life – the end – and use them that way. It’s disgusting.

  10. Brittany Ford

    When my dad lay dying ten years ago, I used a grainy camera phone to take a pic of my hand holding his. I immediately felt sick. I never ever spoke about or showed anyone the picture. I’m pretty sure I deleted it. It felt so unnatural to have a photo of something so private, and I felt like I was disrespecting a dying person by taking a photo of their body without their consent. I know that times have changed and people feel more comfortable with these kinds of actions, but I’m beyond why it’s gone so far as to grace the followers of snapchat ffs.

  11. Britt

    Also, how fortunate she is to only be experiencing death at this point in her life.

  12. KipDynamite

    Sigh. How do people feel comfortable enabling this kind of behavior?

  13. Tabby

    Taking a picture of yourself crying is re-goddamn-diculous. I’d put money on her taking multiple crying picture in order to get the perfect shot where she looks mournful but not with “ugly crying face” because we can’t have THAT, obviously. What a tacky attention wh**e.