Heather Armstrong, doesn’t seem well, has posted a bizarre rant on her website. It’s a 30-scroll TERFtastic screed informing the world that ‘[p]rogressive white moms need to sit the f–k down’ and stop allowing their children to decide their gender.
Dooce previously seemed accepting of her child Marlo’s revelation of their own non-binary status, even proudly showing off their new hairstyle. But now it seems the formerly liberal progressive white woman has decided things like pronouns and gender identity are just some sort of trend that should not be indulged by parents.
White progressive moms, are you asking yourselves the right questions? Maybe you should so that I don’t have to do the work for you. But since none of you are doing the work, lean in close and let me give you the answers to the questions you won’t ask…Gender dysphoria is social contagion…You have got to knock this sh*t off, kids. Because science is real. Biological gender is scientific. Biological sex is SCIENTIFIC. And we are tossing around these pronouns like goddamn candy.
Evidently Heather thinks hating yourself is some sort of default setting for the human condition.
Body dysmorphia. Dysmorphia. You guys are throwing this word around, too, as if you know what it means. You really don’t have any idea what it means. It is not a diagnosis. It’s just a sad, awful state of being human.
Then she moved on to the ~sciency~ part of her manifesto. She talked about how she was some raging drug afflict her whole life (‘heroin, cocaine, amphetamine, LSD, and ecstasy, and I have tried and abused every single one of them’) until like a few months ago when she finally quit Adderall. One has to wonder how a notorious oversharer like Dooce managed to somehow never let it slip that she was high as balls for 20 years as well as her whole claims of lifelong alcoholism and secret drinking in her bathroom (did she stop while pregnant twice, or?) but I guess we are meant to simply take what she says without question because it informs her whole expertise on why gender transition is wrong. Namely, that gender dysphoria that is medically addressed is basically no different than Heather self-medicating her depression and anorexia with Adderall.
I am the adult you will grow into if you think for one second that altering your body with any chemical will make you feel better about normal teenage sadness. You know I’m talking about testosterone, right? Please tell me you know I am on to you and that you do not want to f*ck with your body the way I have f*cked with my body my entire life.
She randomly throws out that ADD is a ‘bullsh*t diagnosis’ and then seemingly tries to blame the government for gender identity issues. ‘Every adult in your life has been told by the government to AFFIRM AFFIRM AFFIRM your gender dysphoria’ she squeals before announcing out of the blue that ‘on August 31st, 2021, I attempted unalived.’ She then repeats her entreaty to other moms to stop supporting their non-conforming children.
Moms, and more specifically WHITE PROGRESSIVE MOMS, you know exactly who you are because you want to be the fun mom, they need you to knock off your bullsh*t. Stop playing into this nonsense because you are helping them destroy their lives.
She went on to claim that ‘when you mess around with your biological sex and gender, you are destroying any possibility of experiencing an orgasm during sex’, for which she provides no scientific studies as proof, before concluding with some weird shaming over deadnaming (what are your parents ‘going to think if they named you after a female family member who was important to them’).
There’s no telling what this stunt will do to her relationship with her child Marlo. But her former fans – who seemingly would tolerate anything from their idol – have finally had enough. Her supporters have been blasting her instagram with appalled feedback and calls to take down the post. Could this finally be the end of Dooce?
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Once again, I am hoping Jon screenshots all of this. I also hope that Marlo has the chance to move in with him, if that is what they prefer, so they can live somewhere safe.
People like her are excellent at seeking out week minded enablers
Agree 100 percent. This reads like a Kanye-level psychotic break. Also, I think she must have had a ghost writer or a competent editor in the heyday of her blog, because since she's been on her own, she hasn't been able to write a coherent sentence, let alone post. Her family need to do an intervention.
I assumed this was Cami and Tyrant.
Amazed and gratified to see her army of rabid fans finally fiiiiinally see the light about her. She is deeply unwell, and has been for some time. What on earth is this Pete guy like if he can’t see and or won’t get her help?
Seriously what kind of person puts up with the kind of crap she claims she's been doing for years? Abusing drugs and alcohol while flailing around with clearly active untreated mental health concerns, like hey Pashole maybe get this mess out of your house and away from your own children? I mean the sex can't possibly be good enough to cancel out all the drama.
Yes, this! I can’t imagine anyone being ok with their children around any of these behaviors. Obviously we won’t know if any boundaries, legal or not were set, but it sure does seem like Pete has chosen this over his kids. Not a great look.
Honestly Heather is damn lucky she has been able to surround herself with enablers all her life - for anyone else with this many problems life sure would have turned out differently.
Dooce woke up & chose non-sensical TERF violence yesterday. What a loser. I hope Marlo has someone looking out for them.
Fucking yikes. She is unwell.
If your child tells you that they are Trans and then later they change their mind, so what? Even if they start hormones (and likely therapy), most, if not all, changes are reversible. What won't be reversible is their feelings toward you as a parent who didn't support them.
My guess would be that Marlo decided to live with their father, and that’s what this is about. A narcissist with control no longer.
Did she take the post down? Her site has some sort of poem up now - that’s it?
She took down the post.
She's also removing references to her support of Marlo's gender from instagram. Wow.
I wonder how much of this was written as a drunken rant because Dooce realized Jon et al was far more accommodating of Marlo (and perhaps even Marlo is happier with them?) then she is?
I mean, I expect a certain level of crazy from Dooce but this is high even from her.
Ooooooh... I don't know this chick from a hole in the ground but as someone with an LGBT+ kid, I had some things to say to her! I didn't find the post (guess it's taken down) but the comments on her IG posts are giving me life!
Wow. This bish.
Remember when Jon was the enemy, existing on her coattails? Not so much, apparently.
I love to see a good train wreck on the internet, but this is scary levels of break down. Dooce really needs to get off the internet. She can never take back what she has written. If her child read it, there is no going back. She is obviously struggling with a lot of things including her child's gender identity. But, you go to therapy, find a support group, do some personal soul searching, step back... you don't take to the internet spouting off things that are hurtful to your child. I don't get these internet moms.
I LOVE a good internet meltdown, but I always hate when it involves kids. This woman needs help. If you want to be an anti-woke, MAGA loon online, fine, whatever, but she's doing serious harm to her child(ren) by dragging them into this. (Not to mention the drug use??)
She is among the reasons unalived rates are so high for LGBTQ+ people, and I don't understand how she can live with herself knowing that.
I was away for a few days and clearly missed a very disturbing post and subsequent edit.
Surely someone has a screenshot of both. I’d like to see the entirety of both… but what I’m hearing scares me for all involved.
She took down the long post, and posted just a sentence and that poem. Still transphobic. Still mentally unstable, just fewer words.
If she was really drinking and drugging and anorexic, how in the world was that a safe place for her children?
Please, Jon, help your kids and make sure they don't have to live in that environment ever again. And get them some therapy for kids who have a parent who abuses alcohol and medications and who has an eating disorder.
Also, in that "new" blog post she says her name is Heather Hamilton.
"Name changes for me but not for thee"
Her post perfectly highlights why Trans/NB/Intersex individuals in our community are suffering. We're being faced by this absolutely random group of Mommy Warriors who want to "protect us from ourselves" and compare our journey to joy and personal contentment with drug abuse and delusion. Frankly? We never asked any of them. We don't need advocates to 'save us'. We're saving ourselves.
But social media mogul moms and politicians have decided, in absence of scientific proof (which exists in our favor, by the way), that they need to forcefully step us back from everything we've established for ourselves. Frankly? A lot of us are in our 20s and 30s and perfectly capable of speaking for ourselves - and we're FINE. Beyond that, a lot of the youth who are transitioning (94% of an social transition age group ranging from 3-12 according to the Pediatric journal) still identify with their chosen gender five years on from the start of their transition. Rates of willful detransition are so low that they're laughable.
Frankly, Heather needs to look to herself before she starts publicly destroying her own child's journey...because it's clear she failed on hers.
Her child's journey should be her child's journey, not ours to read about. And I don't think we're going to be reading about that, or much from her, anymore. It seems to be a goodbye.
She always talks about doing some kind of "work", like she was bestowed upon us to save us. Just get a job folding at the Gap. You can work and get a discount.
And it's back, now with more "don't remember that I TOLD YOU SO" and tales of how people de-transitioning are now afraid because of us? Girl, sit down.
I've been a Dooce fan for nearly 20 years and this post really changed my mind. I officially think she is unwell and I feel terrible for Marlo. The post is back up today, for some reason she decided to double down because "her sister".
I would really like to read the original post. Is there any way to acces it?