It seems Hugo Schwyzer, too many problems to list, isn’t content to use only internet flounces and repeated twitter meltdowns to manufacture dialogue about himself. Lesley Kinzel has now claimed that Schwyzer is trying to tell people what to write about him as he attempts to craft his new persona:

Hugo Schwyzer has emailed me directly to offer suggestions for how I should write about what a monster he is…I personally believe that Schwyzer is now trying to construct a new redemption narrative that he can rebuild some semblance of a career on, I am extremely resistant to do what he has literally asked me to do and play along by writing up a piece about how terrible he is and how he totally “fooled” me, thereby keeping him at the center of the conversation and sustaining his media frenzy.

And so the list of Schwyzer’s manipulations continues to grow. Seriously is there any shady thing this guy WON’T do?

The Generous Husband, wife schooler, would like to help you school your wife. In his post “Helping Her Grow Up” he gives advice on how to inform your woman that she is wrong and needs to change.

He provides helpful hints such as “Is it a bad time of the month? Her hormones really do affect her” and to wait an “hour after a meal or snack” to make sure she’s not hungry. He also warns men to construct a flawless argument against the contrary and stubborn nature of women – “if she can find what she thinks is a flaw with any one of your arguments, she may use that as a way of dismissing everything you have said.” He concludes by basically telling men they shouldn’t bother to use logic because “she likely knows when she is sinning, and yet she is still doing it” – you have to to appeal to her feelings, because that’s all women understand.

At first reading it seems somewhat sensible, which makes it all the more infuriating. Mild misogyny is the most insidious kind because it starts off sounding like it’s trying to bring the sexes together, but really just always ends up with men being the rational, mature sex, and women being the emotional, hormonal sex. I’m not sure how that’s helpful at all.

And frankly if you marry someone you feel the need to help ‘grow up’ then maybe you chose badly. If you want a child to raise then adopt one, don’t marry one.

Jennifer Carsen, some writer over at Parent Society, has written a super helpful post explaining why infidelity happens. To sum it up, your partner cheats because of you.

Evidently letting yourself go, not putting out enough, and directing your attention “to your children, or your job, or maybe even caring for an ailing parent” instead of your significant other will push them straight into the genitals of someone who puts down the fork and pulls their drawers to the side more frequently.

Whether these points have any basis in truth or not is beside the point to me. This article, which seems to be directed at women, smacks of the kind of mansplaining crap men say in order to absolve themselves of blame for porking someone else. Do we really need to legitimize the “it’s never my fault” movement with crap like this?

And by the way, saying there’s “no excuse for cheating” doesn’t mean squat when you then go on to excuse it with a list of 7 reasons why it’s the fault of the betrayed party.